How to Throw the Perfect Party

We’re officially in the thick of summer and it’s never too late to throw the ultimate party for you and your friends. Whether it's in July or any time of year, it’s always the perfect time to celebrate everyone’s individuality and the unifying power of love.

You already know this month is full of parties, parades, and special events, so why not host one of your own? You can choose to celebrate the history of Pride, the love you have for your friends, or simply your freedom of expression!

Throwing a party is easier than you might think. Once you have the basics down, there are a few “finishing touches” you can add to ensure everyone knows exactly what you’re celebrating.

Ready to have a good time? Let’s cover a few tips that will set off the perfect party.

Liven Up Your Invitations

Nowadays, it’s beyond easy to invite people to a get-together. A few clicks on Facebook allow you to create an event in minutes and invite all of your friends. While there’s nothing wrong with that, if you really want to have a special party, it’s worth it to go the extra mile.

That starts with sending out some killer invitations.

Your party announcement should include things like:

  • Date and time
  • The event name
  • Location
  • RSVP or call-to-action

Once you have the basics covered, have fun and be creative. There are plenty of online platforms you can use to create a colorful and unique design. Or, if you’ve got an artistic streak, you can develop your own design from scratch, using traditional rainbow colors or even photographs that mean something you to and your friend group.

A tangible invitation is something people will notice. It will make it easier for them to remember when the party is, and spark their interest and excitement so they’re more likely to come. After all, who doesn’t want a cool and colorful party invitation hanging on their fridge?

Choose the Right Location

When it comes to throwing a good party, location is everything. If you want to adopt a “the more, the merrier” mindset, it might not be realistic to cram everyone into your apartment, or even your house.

One of the best solutions is to throw an outdoor party, utilizing your backyard space. You can choose to go elegant and classy with a traditional outdoor dinner party or keep things colorful and vibrant with unforgettable decor. When it comes to throwing an outdoor party, make sure you check the weather, have enough space for everyone, and ensure there’s enough lighting.

Most people feel comfortable outside and it can make for a stress-free environment. So, if you’re inviting some old and new friends over who may not have met before, keeping things outdoors can keep everything casual enough that no one feels awkward and everyone is welcomed with open arms.

Don’t have a backyard of your own? Don’t sweat it! Consider using a local park if your guest list is small, or contact an outdoor venue to rent for the night. That will help to take some of the burdens off of you when it comes to getting everything ready and having to clean up afterward. If the cost is too much, consider asking everyone to chip in and make the party more like an LGBTQ+ community event, rather than a private get-together.

Eat, Drink, and Be Merry

A party isn’t a party without food and drinks.

No matter what you serve, make sure it’s conducive to your setting. You’re probably not going to want your guests to dish out spaghetti and meatballs onto paper plates when you’re mingling outside.

Things like finger foods are perfect for parties as they allow guests to nibble while talking to others. If you want to go one step further, choose foods that fit the party theme like:

  • Rainbow fruit and vegetable trays
  • Colorful salads
  • Sweet desserts
  • Festive drinks

Speaking of drinks, why not create a signature cocktail for the event? You can find plenty of LGBTQ+-inspired cocktail recipes online, or you can create one of your own specifically for the party. Your guests will love the innovation, and they might even end up asking you for the recipe.

When it comes to the “merriment” aspect of your party, make sure your guests are entertained. You don’t have to have special activities lined up, but things like fun background music and a few adult outdoor games can make a big difference. Ask your friends beforehand what some of their favorite songs are, and compile them to create a perfect party Spotify playlist you can use all night. Whether you want to encourage some dancing or you just want to fill in the silence, music is a must.

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Like many of the recent Marvel Cinematic Universe films, LGBTQ+ fans awaited the release of Thor: Love and Thunder in open anticipation of the inclusivity that both Marvel and Disney had promised. However, the fans were only setting themselves up for disappointment when the film was finally released.

Despite passionate assurances from studio heads to key actors, Thor: Love and Thunder was NOT spectacularly gay. It wasn’t even that good…

Premiere Night Promises

A bolt of lightning cuts across a rainbow on a dark and stormy night.

Lightning bold across the sky

Photo by Bill D.

Standing on the red carpet at the London Premiere of the film, director and actor Taika Waititi and fellow cast members Natalie Portman and Tessa Thompson were offered up the inevitable question: “How gay is the film?

Amidst some laughter from the crowds, Waititi gestured towards Portman to respond. The actress (who plays Thor’s love interest, Jane Foster, throughout the franchise) raised the microphone to her lips and thought for a moment, before delivering a quiet yet fateful: “So gay!

Barely a moment had passed before the gathered fans went wild and Taika Waititi gave his own verdict: “Super gay!”. Tessa Thompson made no statement on the ‘gayness’ of the film, instead opting to swing her microphone around suggestively. As more cheers erupted, a second round of “super gay” slipped out of Waititi’s mouth, before he urged the fans to enjoy the film.

Thor: Love and Thunder’s LGBTQ+ Potential

Thor’s movie-goers were definitely hyped up for a gay extravaganza and they had a specific character in mind. The fan-favorite Valkyrie, played by Tessa Thompson, stumbled her way into the MCU during Thor’s third film, Ragnarok. The Asgardian warrior won many people over with her wit, sarcasm, and pure badassery.

After the events of Avengers: Endgame *spoilers*, Thor Odinson gives up his claim to the throne of Asgard and names Valkyrie as king in his stead. This left many fans excited to see what would become of the character, especially after certain revelations were made at the 2019 San Diego Comic-Con:

“As a new king, she has to find her queen. So that’ll be her first order of business.”

With these words, Tessa Thompson threw her LGBTQ+ fans into a frenzy, with heavy expectations for the then-upcoming fourth installment of the Thor films. Indeed, in an interview with the LA Times, shortly before the film's release, Tessa Thompson was asked to comment on the sexuality of her character. She responded with several promising remarks, including “there’s a lot of folks that are righteously very hungry for that representation to exist in these movies, as am I”.

*Warning: spoilers ahead!*

So, How Gay Was Thor 4?

To put it simply: not gay at all. Not only did Valkyrie end up without a fabulous new queen, her non-heteronormative sexuality only got the barest mention (a brief line about a previous, now dead, girlfriend). Valkyrie may have made bedroom eyes at some pretty ladies before an action scene spoils the moment, but that’s about as much as we get.

The film does get some credit for introducing a trans character in a minor yet significant role. Thor returns to his people (after a brief stint as a Guardian of the Galaxy) only to find out that the daughter of one of his closest (and deceased) friends is now a boy. The issue is, whether due to personal prejudice or some alien inability to grasp the concept of being transgender, it does take Thor a frustrating few moments to come to terms with the change. And to stop deadnaming.

In fact, the only concession to the queer community was Taika Waititi’s extraterrestrial character Korg finding a husband in one of the closing scenes. This heartfelt moment was somewhat underscored by the revelation that Korg’s entire species is male, meaning he had no other choice but to be ‘gay’.

This Is Not Marvel’s First Queerbaiting Attempt

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Photo by Harry Q.

This is, by far, not the first time that LGBTQ+ fans have been sorely disappointed by the workings of Marvel and Disney. In fact, people across many social media platforms have been chiding expectant viewers for once again falling for classic queerbaiting tactics. “Being queerbaited by the MCU is like being a golden retriever with a human who always pretends to throw the ball”, one Tumblr user declared.

Captain Marvel, starring Brie Larson, was the perfect moment for the MCU to introduce its first lesbian lead. Larson’s character seemed to have an intense relationship with another woman, going so far as to help raise her child (before Larson’s Carol Danvers disappeared from Earth for 6 years). Despite leaning into several romantic tropes, the status of their relationship was never fully fleshed out. However, it was also the franchise’s first female-led superhero movie, so maybe they thought that introducing her as a lesbian would make the film too awesome.

The heavily anticipated Avengers: Endgame was also slated to introduce the MCU’s ‘first gay character'. While many fans were excited, particularly as this would be the second of Larson’s appearances on screen, the big gay build-up was a massive letdown. The film’s director Joe Russo made a cameo as a blip survivor mourning the loss of his husband. A five-second throw-away scene that had no impact on the outcome of the film. Big whoop...

Even when we did see a film with a gay lead, The Eternals, there were also ten other straight leads. At that point, it just seemed more like basic probability than an attempt at pushing LGBT+ superheroes into the spotlight.

Why Can’t Disney Let Marvel Be Gay?

The big problem with allowing a few characters to be anything other than cishet is that there are still many countries in the world that outlaw homosexuality. As much as we like to think that the MCU is being made for comic book fans, we all know the purpose of the films is to make money for Disney. And without certain markets in Asia and the Middle East, Disney wouldn’t be raking in up to (and over) one billion dollars per theatrical release.

Is There Any Hope For LGBTQ+ Fans In The MCU’s Future?

Black Panther: Wakanda Forever, the second in the much-loved Black Panther arc, will be released in cinemas this November. The studio has confirmed that the film will contain a queer character. Actress Michaela Coel will play Aneka, a warrior, and trainer of the king’s guard. Whether or not her diversity will stand out in the film (let alone endure for more than a 10-second scene that can be easily cut) remains to be seen.

Next year’s The Marvels film, starring Brie Larson, Iman Vellani, and Lashana Lynch may offer the MCU a chance to redeem itself in the eyes of its LGBT+ fans. The studios may feel it’s finally time to offer us the heartwarming lesbian relationship between Larson’s Carol Danvers and Lynch’s Maria Rambeau that seemed to be teased in the first Captain Marvel. Don’t raise your hopes too high, though, as you may yet end up as a stubborn golden retriever waiting for a cinematic universe to finally throw that rainbow ball.