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Although we’re moving toward a more diverse, inclusive, and accepting world, sometimes it seems this is happening at a snail’s pace. Body image, in particular, is a primary topic in the discussion about what’s keeping us divided.
Unfortunately, society has conditioned many of us to attach our self-worth and self-esteem to the number we see on the scale. As a result, we’re allowing the way we look and the comments others make about our weight and bodies to define who we are. And that’s just not okay.
Fortunately, we can change the narrative by embracing our individuality, promoting body positivity, and adopting the mindset that every one of our bodies is beautiful, complex, and worth appreciating.
Here’s how to embrace individuality through body positivity.
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Learn to Accept Who You Are
The core of body positivity is accepting who you are. But we must consider how forcing acceptance of one’s physical body can actually be harmful.
For example, the body positivity movement can potentially neglect a trans person's desire to change their body to align with their gender identity. Instead of saying that we should accept what we look like and move on, we should encourage each other to step into who we are, even if that means changing our bodies to align with our gender identities.
You might also want to get cosmetic surgery, change your hair, wear makeup, switch your style up, or something different entirely. Whatever you have to do to accept who you are, do it. That’s how the body positivity movement must evolve.
Next, if you’re considering embarking on a weight loss journey, be sure you’re doing it for yourself.
Lose Weight for You
Weight is an all too familiar subject in the body positivity conversation. Unfortunately, unrealistic beauty standards influence so many people to lose weight for the wrong reasons and in an unhealthy manner.
In addition, it seems that losing weight would have a primarily positive impact on anyone, from boosting self-esteem to healthier sleep to pain relief.
But weight loss can also have adverse effects on our mental, physical, and emotional health. For example, you can start to feel like you didn’t quite get the results you thought you would, or your anxiety and fear could flare up so much that it causes an eating disorder.
Bottom line, if you want to lose weight, do it for yourself and no one else. Work on embracing all stages your body goes through during a weight loss journey. Make the best decisions for your health and wellness goals and forget about society's thoughts.
You can also embrace your individuality through body positivity by focusing on your mindset and emotional health.
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Focus on Your Mental Health
Nurturing your mental health is critical when embracing individuality through body positivity. Being a part of the LGBTQ+ community means navigating unique challenges and experiences that influence your feelings about yourself.
To come out of those difficulties and experiences positively, you must take care of your mental health. What we put out into the world reflects our internal dialogues and how we feel about ourselves.
So, make sure you’re filling your head and heart with good things to help you become even more comfortable with who you are and how you view your body. Enlist the help of mental health professionals to get the tools and support you need to strengthen your mental and emotional well-being.
Lastly, surround yourself with others embracing their bodies and individualism.
Surround Yourself With Others Embracing Individuality and Body Positivity
If we’re honest, our support systems are integral to how we survive and thrive in this world. When you have a circle of friends and family that support you being you, it makes a difference in the way you view yourself and your place in this world.
You can use social media platforms to grow your support system. Join groups and connect with others embracing individuality through body positivity. You can also attend events, engage in activities, and socialize in person to deepen your relationships with those that want to build a body-positive, inclusive community.
Your professional relationships should also support your individuality and push for body positivity. For instance, see if you can get a trans-affirming doctor as your primary care physician. They aren’t talked about enough, but there are various resources for trans people seeking primary care from a physician who genuinely supports and has experience caring for individuals in the LGBTQ+ community.
Ultimately, the people you’re around the most influence how you think, feel, and behave. Be sure your circle is full of people embracing their individuality and promoting body positivity that extends to every branch of the LGBTQ+ community.
Conclusion
Embracing individuality through body positivity is one of the best things you can do for yourself and those around you. You’ll never truly know peace until you become comfortable in your own skin, accepting of your flaws, and overjoyed with every part of who you are. So, embark on your life’s journey with the utmost love for your body and individualism.
A gay cruise
One of the best options to have in mind when all of this passes is a good, nice and long (pun intended) gay cruise. Or cruise in general, for that matter. Bear in mind, social distancing will still be a thing in the post-COVID world. But COVID-19 likely doesn’t mean that cruises will cease to exist. On the contrary, though cruise ships will probably keep the number of passengers smaller than before, it is believed that they will become an even bigger hit in the following period, especially because they are all going to go a lot more environmentally-friendly. On the bright side, is there any better way of celebrating the end of the pandemic than by cruising around some magnificent seas, stopping by at great cities and having romantic dinner nights at nice restaurants?
A getaway in nature
On the other hand, there is always the option of stepping away from the hustle and bustle of large cities, and spending some time in a place that’s not only healthy, but also beautiful. Some of the destinations that plenty of people will look for are the ones that can cater for both peace of mind and amazing things to see or do. One such destination is New Zealand, one of the greenest countries on Earth right now. Not only will you be visiting the magnificent country that gave us the beautiful Shire from Lord of the Rings; this is also a destination that’s excellent for everyone who prefers relaxing to partying. If you’re up for some partying, you will be able to hit Auckland, while if you’re for something calmer, there’s plenty of amazing places that you can see and visit.
Dancing around at Pride
Pride parades are also events that you want to have in mind for the post-COVID world. Such events have always been quite important, but it seems that they are now more important than ever. The virus has canceled more than 75 Pride parades all around the world, which is one of the reasons why we must support the ones that will see the light of day once the pandemic stops. Truth be told, the upcoming Prides will perhaps be the best Prides ever organized. Give the gays a couple of weeks of quarantine, then let them outside and see what kind of party they are able to throw!
A road trip
If you’re, as well, waiting for the day to wake up and say “long gone are the days when we were not allowed to go wherever we wanted?”, and if staying at one place gave you a lot to think about, then your first post-COVID travel experience should definitely be a nice road trip. You can practically choose which country you want to tour, and you can either take your own car (you have probably missed it so much), or rent one at your destination. Australia is an amazing country for this, though, as it offers the possibility of seeing the Great Ocean Road, which is an amazing thing to see and experience. On the other hand, if you do not want or cannot leave your country, you can also choose to go on a domestic road trip – there are amazing things to see in your vicinity as well.
Holiday for a single guy
If you’re single, or you’re traveling someplace with another single friend, then you should definitely organize a nice vacation for yourself or for you and your single friend, and hit one of the best European cities. Europe has been greatly affected by the virus, which means that now it’s time to pay it back and get it back on its feet by traveling there and seeing all the amazing things it offers. Any city you choose in Europe – you will not make a mistake. Apart from being able to see great landmarks, you will also have the chance to have a drink at great gay clubs and pubs, and join unforgettable gay parties. And if the gay scenery is not your forte, worry not, as Europe indeed has to offer so many different and magnificent things.
Who cares what others have
The first and most important piece of advice would be to be who you are, but since this is as cliché as it can get, let’s say that the first thing to do is not to compare yourself with other gay people. This is something that can create so many different issues – first of all, with your self-confidence and image which can have a big effect on your life, and secondly, it can affect your relationship with other people. There are certain things that are always “expected” from gay men, such as having abs, being very handsome, having crystal clear skin or dressing up in the latest fashion. Well, be who you are and never try to be someone else so that you can stand out. This is the most important tip you should follow as this is the only way you will truly be happy.
Make yourself a routine
Creating a routine for yourself and having activities that you enjoy doing on a daily basis is an essential thing for your happiness. What is important to know is that your habits create your mood, and the more interesting habits you have, the happier you will be. It is always a good thing when you get to come home from work and have certain things that you can get up to. However, it would be good that your routines in 2020 revolve around everything that is natural, healthy and organic. So, buying yourself a gym membership or taking up a sport are two great ideas. If you want to be bolder, you can always hit the best kratom shop and turn to natural products that will make your daily routine much more pleasant, and you happier. Remember that this doesn’t have to necessarily be a daily routine that you have to create, but rather have several things that you like doing and can do from time to time when you want to feel better.
You are enough for you
Next up, we should turn to one of the biggest issues of unsatisfied people – the fact that they’re single. Now, not all single people are unsatisfied, but the majority of people feel dissatisfaction once they have nobody by their side, which is one of the traits they definitely have to change. You do not need anyone else to tell you are perfect or amazing or pretty or beautiful, you do not need anyone so that you could feel validated. What you can do is spice things up, and if you are a sexual being, you can always find someone to spend several hot nights with. However, if you are looking for a relationship, you need to start with yourself and stop feeling sorry for yourself because you are single. This is what shows, and nobody wants to hit on someone who has a lot of negativity going on.
Socialize with positive people
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There’s nothing that works better for your own happiness than surrounding yourself with people that you love and people who are positive (obviously, you get the most of it when you combine these two and spend time with people who are both positive and very important to you). In 2020, it would be best to ditch negativity and leave it behind – even though it might be difficult, limiting the time you spend with negative people can definitely do wonders for your own mood and overall state of happiness.
Meditate
Finally, focus on yourself. It is 2020, so whatever you choose to do for your own well-being is definitely not something you should be embarrassed about. If yoga is something that is going to calm you down, take your stress away and thus make you a generally less unsatisfied person – so be it. You can also turn to meditation or simply spending time with your friends and laughing. Laughter is also one of the strongest remedies. You know what they say – when life gives you lemons, make a lemonade. Beyoncé made it and it’s the best album of the decade.
Hopefully, you will be a better person in 2020. After all, it doesn’t matter what you do and how others perceive you – if you like yourself, that’s what matters. So, make the following a New Year’s resolution – love yourself.
1. Talk about your priorities
The first thing that you need to do is make a list of the priorities that you might have as a married couple. Knowing these things in advance will not only help you save some more cash in the future, but it can also significantly enhance the communication between the two of you and prevent any future problems that you might face in regards to your relationship. Plenty of people fall out because of irreconcilable differences regarding finances, so the sooner you set these rules in stone, the better. What is your priority? Do you think that the most important thing to do is invest in the house? Do you want to travel, or perhaps invest in a new business? Make sure you talk this out with your partner, as this will be extremely helpful once you have to plan out your finances.
2. Planning out the finances
Now comes the tricky part, and that is planning out your finances. Allocating the amount of money that you will spend on different aspects of your life together is definitely not an easy task. In order to do this, calculate your monthly earnings on one side and write all of your necessary expenses on the other. Next up, try to allocate the amount of money that you will spend on traveling a year, and see if you have to save for that on a monthly basis or not. These are all the things that you are supposed to do if you want to travel effortlessly and to always have a ready fund for things like these. Also, bear in mind that no matter where you are in the world, you will be able to apply for a personal loan if you know where to look, so it would be good to know your finances in advance and plan things accordingly. Do not forget to add a fund for your house or apartment (as probably there will be things to be done there) and some bigger shopping.
3. Long-term planning
Planning is indeed a great thing, so the next step would be to plan bigger. Now, this is the time when you have to think about your long-term finances, and the things that you would like to have accomplished or bought by then. This is also a great way to avoid any arguments in the future. So, where do you see yourself in 20 or 30 years? Do you want to buy a car? Do you want to invest in a big house somewhere out of the city? Knowing these things in advance will only make this process easier when the time comes.
4. Have three different funds
In order to keep everything in perfect control and to avoid any conflicts in the future, it would be a good idea to have three different funds - one that is going to be for the both of you, and two for each of you. This will give both of you an illusion that you have “your own cash”, even though you might not have the opportunity to spend it very often, it is a good feeling. This is also something that you can use if you want to make a purchase that your partner disapproves of. Surely, depending on the amount of money that you both earn a month or year, determine these two funds accordingly. Also, it would be a great idea to have exactly the same amount of money in those funds, regardless of how much each of you earns.
5. Have an emergency fund
Finally, there is another fund that you have to worry about, and that is the emergency fund. This is important for all the married people (and all people in general), but it might be slightly more important for LGBT people as you never know what tomorrow will bring and if you will have to spend a bit more on certain taxes or not. Yes, gay marriages are legal, but it is always to play it safe and keep an emergency fund in case something happens, and you cannot have control of the finances of your partner. Apart from that, this is a good idea as it is always better to be safe than sorry.
It might seem that you have to have different funds, and by having so, you will not see one dime from your salary. Yes, life is expensive nowadays, but with proper budget planning, you will be able to do a lot.