With the holidays behind us, it’s time to get back to work. This month I interviewed Tami Albin, who is Women, Gender, and Sexualities Studies librarian at the University of Kansas. Not only is she passionate about her work with students, but she also is constantly on the go with multiple projects, including her oral history project, Under the Rainbow: Oral Histories of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer People in Kansas. I am so privileged to have worked with this incredible woman.
1. At what point did you know that you wanted to be a librarian?
Well, I’ve spent most of my life in libraries, except in high school. I got kicked out quite often for being too loud, and I don’t think our high school librarian liked me. (I’m still very loud and have been known to be shushed by KU students.) When I was an undergrad, I was a circulation desk student assistant at my university library. One day I was helping a student and another student assistant asked me whether I was going to go to graduate school to be a librarian. The thought never crossed my mind until that moment, but it made complete sense, given my politics around access to information as a right and not a privilege.
2. I know that you’re Canadian. How did you end up in Kansas?
Oh, I fell in love with an assistant professor I met at my first academic job in upstate New York. We started dating, and she was on the market. Her position at that time was a two-year (possibly renewable) gig. So one day I asked her if she was interested in having a librarian with two cats join her on her job adventure, and she said yes. So we ended up at KU. The challenge for us wasn’t that we were a same-sex couple, but that I was Canadian. So I had to deal with visa issues, applying for various positions, and making sure all labor laws with an international employee were being followed correctly. It was incredibly stressful, but eventually everything worked out, and we’ve been at KU 12½ years.
3. What do you find most rewarding about your job?
There are many aspects to my job that I find incredibly rewarding (like running around the library dressed as a banana or Tinky Winky), but I think the most rewarding is working on in-depth research with graduates and undergraduates. I think there needs to be a certain level of trust for these types of interactions to happen, and when that trust is present in the conversations, we can really push the ways we are thinking and engaging with possible ideas or directions. It is really exciting for me to work with a student who has a speck of an idea and over many conversations watch the idea grow, morph and shape into a serious research project involving intense research. Through this process, the student is also growing, morphing and shifting into the role of student scholar, and it’s wonderful to watch. I learn so much from the students, too.
4. What is your average day at the library during the semester?
I don’t do the exact same thing every day, and often things spill outside of the 8-5 workday, but commonalities in my days would include: answering lots of emails, consultations with students about their research, research instruction sessions, working with teaching faculty and graduate teaching assistants on course and assignment redesign, and attending really long meetings about work-related things. (I have ADHD, so any big meeting over 45 minutes is incredibly hard to sit through, and I need to have a doodle pad with me.)
5. You have been working on your Under the Rainbow: Oral Histories of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer People in Kansas project for about five years now. How did you decide to do an oral history project?
A few things happened that brought the project to fruition. When we moved here, our friends (in other locations) thought we were going to get chased out of the state with pitchforks because, according to our friends, “No gays live in Kansas.” After we moved here, all we saw were gay people and maybe a farmer’s wife or two mixed in, but still there were so many LGBTQ people around us everywhere we went. Kansas has a huge LGBTQ population. HUGE. This led to us asking the question: Why do LGBTQ people in Kansas stay? Can people not afford to leave? Is it home and they don’t want to leave? Are people staying to fight the good fight? What’s going on in Kansas? I also realized that there’s barely anything written on Kansas, and what is written isn’t based much on conversations with LGBTQ people in Kansas, so I decided to begin an oral history project that would capture LGBTQ people in Kansas discussing their experiences.
6. How many people have you interviewed to date, and will you interview more people in the future?
I’ve interviewed over 60 people, and I would still like to interview at least another 20. I recognize that this will not represent all voices in Kansas. To do a project of that caliber would cost a considerable amount of money.
7. You will be on sabbatical from KU this spring, which has sent many of us who work with you into a tizzy (who will help us with our research at 3 a.m.?). What will you do with your time?
Oh, I have quite the list: conduct more interviews, take the transcripts and begin crafting them into a manuscript, write a book proposal to submit to a few publishers, and write and submit grant proposals for more funding. I’m really excited to have a dedicated chunk of time to work on the project. Birdie [her cat> is also excited. I bought him a pet sling so he could snuggle comfortably on my lap while I work at my desk.
8. You also have a very busy home life with your partner, professor Sherrie Tucker (American Studies, University of Kansas), and four cats. When you have the time, what do you do to relax?
I have a really hard time sitting still, so even if I’m relaxing, I’m working on something. It could be pottery or building something (raised-bed garden, bookshelves, cat shelves) or painting. I play with the cats (Birdie, Bowie, Casey and Idgie). Sherrie and I sometimes have long dinners and talk about everything under the sun and then play Rummikub, but we don’t keep score. We really don’t care who wins. We just enjoy spending time together.
9. Some people may not know that you and your partner have published a limited-edition book about your cat Birdie. How did that come about?
I love to take pictures of my cats. I always have. When we got Birdie and Bowie from the pound, nobody had any idea that Birdie had so many health issues, but we worked with our vet and slowly got things figured out. After lots of testing and surgeries, he was diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos syndrome, so his skin tears really easily and he’s quite flexible. He also has severe allergies. So we put him in dog T-shirts to try to protect the majority of his skin from potential scratches, which on his body can turn into big gashes very quickly. It’s surprising with all that has happened to him how chill and casual he is with the other cats and people. He likes to lean up against things or flop on the floor in funny ways. Whenever he is sitting or lying in a way that I think is funny, I take a picture. I’ve never posed him for a picture. They just happen. One day Sherrie was looking at some of the thousands of pictures I’d taken, and she decided she was going to write a book about Birdie. She did a great job. It’s quite funny and if people want to see part it, they can go to www.blurb.com/b/3952824-look-at-birdie.
10. If you could switch places with one of your cats for a day, which one would it be and why?
As I am working on this, I am surrounded by four sound-asleep cats. I think I could switch places with any of them and life would be good, although I do not look forward to expelling hairballs. "
Velvet Ibiza
Every year, Ibiza is home to Europe’s very epic queer woman’s party, Velvet Ibiza, which is celebrating its 7th anniversary and promises to be next level. Velvet Ibiza is an all-inclusive 5-day and 5-night party and includes transportation from the airport, a bungalow, 3 meals, and activities and parties day and night, and drinks until around 10:30 pm.
This year, international crowds of LGBTQ+ women will be attending Velvet Ibiza on May 2 - 7 to celebrate life, belonging, and freedom. Event organizers have rented an entire resort in order to build a community vibe and allow queer women to connect so there’s no reason to go anywhere unless of course, you want to go shopping, head to the beach, or explore the island.
Creator and Producer
Carine De Mesmaker created Velvet Ibiza in 2015 and has produced it ever since. She is also the mastermind behind Velvet Sixty Nine, the woman’s party in Brussels founded in 2010. Carine has been putting on parties in bars and clubs since the early 80s and owned her own club, Gate, from 1999 to 2004. Her goal is to create a safe space for queer women and to throw amazing parties.
Where to Stay
Velvet Ibiza pool partyPhoto courtesy of Velvet Ibiza
The host hotel is Cala Martina located in the historical Hippie Market, where you can find all things hippie. Hippie Market was founded in 1973 and is the largest and oldest market on the island. Cala Martina is arranged in bungalow-style houses with pine trees and natural landscapes. The pool is situated on the edge of a cliff with amazing views. The demand is so great that a second hotel was reserved. Paraiso Beach is a 4-star boutique hotel next to the host hotel and is only a short walk to all the events. There are five floors with views of the swimming pool or the forest.
For more information and how to book, visit Velvet Ibiza
The Event’s DJ Line Up and Program
Tuesday May 2, 2023
15:00 Welcome at the pool DJ TBC
17:00 Pool DJ Boogshe
18:30 Dinner
21:00 Pool I’m Single & Ready to Mingle (speed dating)
21:00 Pool DJ SharaOpening Party
23:00 Club DJ NOMNY (B)
01:00 Club DJ Quivr
Wednesday May 3, 2023
Hippy Market from 08:00 to 18:00
10:00 Excursion 1
11:00 Yoga with Marta
15:00 Pool DJ Mia Wallas
17:00 Pool DJ NOMY
18:30 Dinner
21:00 Pool Message Party DJ Boogshe
Club Message Party
23:00 Club DJ TBD
01:00 Club DJ TBD
Thursday May 4, 2023
10:00 Excursion 2
11:00 Yoga with Marta
15:00 Pool DJ Mia Wallas
15:00 Pool Waterpolo
16:00 Wedding chappel
17:00 Pool DJ Quivr
18:30 Dinner
21:00 Pool DJ TBC STUDIO 69 (Disco)
CLUB Studio 69 PARTY
23:00 Club DJ TBD
01:00 Club DJ TBD
Friday May 5, 2023
10:00 Excursion 3
11:00 Yoga with Marta
15:00 Pool DJ Mia Wallas
15:00 Beach Volley
16:00 Pool Waterpolo
17:00 Pool DJ TBD
18:30 Dinner
21:00 Pool Jungle Party DJ TBD
CLUB Jungle PARTY
23:00 Club DJ SAHRA
01:00 Club DJ NOMY
Saturday May 6, 2023
11:00 Yoga with Marta
15:00 Pool DJ TBD
17:00 Pool DJ TBD
18:00 The famous duck race
18:15 Photo Moment
18:30 Dinner
21:00 Pool DJ Jennifer Cooke
CLOSING PARTY
23:00 Club DJ TBD
01:00 Club DJ’s QUIVR/Sahra Back to Back
Financial Planning for the LGBTQ+ community
The new year has arrived. For many people, that means making resolutions and thinking of ways they can do better in the coming year and beyond. Money management and financial planning are often very popular resolutions and goals, but most financial advice tends to be aimed at heterosexual couples who want to grow their family and raise children.
But, what if your life goals are different? What if you don’t receive the same protection under the current laws as hetero couples?
What if you don’t want to have kids?
Financial planning is a great way to start your year on the right foot, but if you’re a part of the queer and childfree, you might need to make a few more adjustments than your hetero friends.
Let’s take a look at some strategies you can use in the new year to get your finances in order in a way that fits your lifestyle.
The Challenges You Might Face
Facing your challenges
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Depending on where you live, there might be certain legal protections and benefits in place that can help you with financial planning. However, not all states offer those protections, which can do more harm than good and create a few challenges for you as you plan for your financial future.
For example, if you’re not legally married, you aren’t eligible for things like inheritance laws and social security benefits. No matter how long you’ve been with your partner, it’s required by law that you be married to receive those protections. Furthermore, many states have not yet established anti-discrimination laws. This means that, depending on your location, you might not have protection against things like:
- Housing costs
- Access to credit
- Healthcare access
Putting a strong, legal-approached financial plan in place now will not only help to prepare you for the future but will give you a better idea of the challenges you might have to face as you get older. It’s often worthwhile to find a financial advisor who specializes in working with LGBTQIA+ individuals and couples. They’ll be able to help you make smart decisions with your money and keep you up-to-date with the laws and protections in your state.
A financial advisor can also help with roadblocks you might face if you’re on a budget and need money quickly. For example, pulling money out of a retirement account early generally isn’t a good idea. If you make early withdrawals, a 10% early distribution tax is added. However, if you have a permanent disability, qualifying medical costs, or need financial assistance with caregiving, you may be able to draw from it early without penalty. A financial advisor can point you in the right direction and protect you from penalties.
Making Investment Purchases
While you may have more disposable income without children to provide for, it doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t do your due diligence when making larger purchases. These larger, investment purchases may not always follow the same trajectory as traditional, heteronormative purchases do — e.g., weddings, big houses, and then family-sized vans. Of course, you can choose to follow this trajectory or stray from this path according to your specific lifestyle. In any case, you want to watch out for discrimination when making any big purchases. Make sure to vet the company you are working with. Look at reviews and ask around in the community. Also, do your research on protections against discrimination.
For example, find out what U.S. laws protect LGBTQIA+ homebuyers. Anti-discrimination laws can only build on federal housing laws, so check your state for extra protections. When buying a car, make sure you don’t fall victim to scammy sales tactics. Even though LGBTQ+ credit discrimination is illegal, there are still systemic issues that cause credit issuers — including car dealerships — to have misconceptions about the community. It’s best to remain vigilant just in case.
For instance, you may have just one income to rely on and are in the market for a used car. When purchasing a used car, ask smart questions to avoid financial mistakes. Consider asking the car salesperson:
- What is the vehicle’s history — including service records, wrecks, or even reported theft of the vehicle?
- Are there any previous or current problems you have noticed with the vehicle?
- What services were done to prepare the car for sale?
- What is included with the car — including any preinstalled upgrades, warranties, or the number of keys on hand?
- What is the policy to return a car after purchase?
These questions may seem invasive, but they are actually investigative and, often, necessary. Avoid covert discrimination in the form of “pulling the wool over your eyes” because you are unfairly perceived as uninformed at the car dealership — come prepared. This goes for any costly purchase, so do your research and prepare for any curveballs that come your way.
Starting Fresh Financial Habits in the New Year
No matter the challenges you face — either legally or personally — one of the best ways to boost your financial wellness in the new year is to create healthier habits. Create a budget for yourself that allows you to live the lifestyle you want while preparing for the future. Maybe you’re thinking about having children someday and want to start saving now. Maybe you know that parenthood isn’t for you but you want a comfortable retirement. Some of the best ways to save, even when you’re on a tight budget, include:
- Cutting down on excessive expenses
- Finding a side gig
- Asking for a raise at work
- Chipping away at debt
- Eating at home more often
- Adjusting your paycheck withholdings.
It’s never too soon to start planning and preparing for the future — whether you live alone, with roommates, with a partner, or with a spouse. Keep these tips in mind to overcome financial hurdles and make the most of your financial vision, this year and beyond.
Slane Irish Whiskey bottles
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Whiskey has been hitting the shelves left and right lately taking up aisles and aisles. All good things if you ask me. I took a quick trip out to Atlanta for a review of Slane Irish Whiskey. I know what you’re thinking. Atlanta and Irish Whiskey? I was waiting for the connection but there wasn’t one, except for the people I met but let’s start from the beginning, shall we?
Visiting a Garden That Gives Back to the Community
The garden at A Sip of Paradise
Photo courtesy of A Sip of Paradise
The first thing on the list is to visit a place called A Sip of Paradise. This non-profit garden space caters to bartenders and people in the hospitality industry. It’s a place where everyone can gather for specific events, help maintain the garden, borrow from the garden, and create a sense of community. It’s a safe space where you can recharge the body, mind, and soul through gardening and health and wellness programs and so much more.
As the day unfolded, we learned how the garden space was created, why it was created, and how it thrives. Anyone in the hospitality industry can tell you that it is sometimes grueling hard work. It takes a toll on the body, mind, and at times, the spirit. Walking among the various plants and flowers, you get a sense of grounding. You take care of and nurture these plants so they will grow and thrive in the sultry weather. You leave your troubles behind as your focus turns to the garden, the people, and the stories they share.
As luck would have it, it poured down rain and we couldn’t go out and weed the garden. Then the rain stopped. Then it started again. Then finally, it stopped. During the rain, we huddled together under pop-up tents and shared stories and cocktails. We learned the stories of a few members and we learned how they give back to the community that has helped them along the way.
This. This is the connection. Slane Irish Whiskey (and company) is long rooted in community, music, sustainability, and a yearning for leaving the world a better place than they found it. Cliche, I know. But the work that A Sip of Paradise does on a daily basis is the same work Slane Distillery is doing. Building a legacy.
These people are more than mere bartenders, mixologists, and drink slingers. There were trailblazers and celebrities in their own right. They were are giving back. They were are making a difference. All the while making amazing cocktails.
A Sip of Paradise’s principles are easy. Come together as a community. Partake in the care of the garden space, take what you need, and give what you can.
Inside the Epicurean Hotel Atlanta
Epicurean Hotel Atlanta
Photo courtesy of Epicurean Hotel Atlanta, Autograph Collection by Marriott
I was staying in the heart of Midtown Atlanta at the Epicurean Hotel. This isn’t your typical run-of-the-mill hotel–it’s a food-themed boutique hotel. Instead of checking in at the front desk or speaking with a concierge person, you actually check in at the host desk inside the first-floor restaurant called Reverence. Upon checking in, you’re offered your choice of a complimentary beer or glass of wine. (impressed already).
Each floor is food themed. I happened to be staying on the Pinot Noir floor. Fitting I know. I have the sense that it didn’t matter what floor I was on! The room was great and wouldn’t you know, there was a bar with snacks. Not one of those tiny little minibars, but a full-on wall dedicated to all things booze. There were shelves with wine on them, spirits, and snacks. Some were complimentary so as I sipped my complimentary wine, I had some snacks as I relaxed and pretended to get some work done before meeting the group downstairs.
Reverence is the main restaurant where you not only dine and drink, but this is where I checked into my hotel. It’s an open kitchen concept with plenty of seating in and around the kitchen. Elegantly designed and decorated to make you feel right at home.
If you want a bit more casual, you can head to Aerial Kitchen and Bar situated next to the swimming pool and cabanas. Seating is like sitting in your familiar backyard and hanging out with friends. The open concept means you’re sitting outside enjoying the weather.
If you’re not quite ready for dining, you can head over to The Office Bar and cocktails. Don’t worry, if you do end up getting hungry, you can order from the eclectic menu.
Perhaps the shining jewel of the hotel would be the cooking theater. The Epicurean Theatre is built for demonstrations, teachings, or any group event where you can learn various cooking techniques.
There’s a Sky Terrance where you can take in the views of Atlanta’s skyline or just lounge around on the large lawn space taking a break from work, or perhaps you’re working remotely. It’s a perfect setting to do that.
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Cooking Demonstrations with Whiskey Pairings
Chef preparing for his cooking demonstration at the Epicurean Theatre
Photo credit of Joe Eats World
Most of the amazing people we met in the garden were attending the dinner along with a few local writers, bloggers, and fellow lovers of food. One of the Slane Irish Whiskey Ambassadors was there to give us a bit more history on Slane Distillery.
Slane Irish Whiskey is triple distilled and triple casked using virgin barrels, seasoned barrels, and sherry. Slane works on sustainability, renewable energy, and a lower carbon footprint. Toss in the whiskey, music, and oh, a rebuilt Irish Castle and you get some pretty amazing history. The castle is used for tours, weddings, and music venues. Some of the biggest names in music have either visited or played at the castle.
Our dinner was a paring of three different expressions of Slane’s whiskey. Dinner was a four-course experience where we feasted on chilled half-shell oysters, hot and sour pork belly bao buns, scallops n grits, and orange-cured summer peaches. We finished off the evening with another Slane Irish Whiskey coffee old fashioned. Honestly, I didn’t think I was going to sleep that night but curiously, it wasn’t a problem.
Having Brunch Before Heading to the Airport
The James Room entrance
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The next day we set out for The James Room. Their website opens with We’re a Vibe and I have to agree. We were told about The James Room but upon arriving and walking through the glass doors, you’re taken aback because we were supposed to have cocktails and brunch with Tiffanie Barriere. Instead what I walked into was a coffee and pastry shop with a few tables to either side of me and a coffee counter directly ahead. Intriguing.
As we were talking, one of our new friends came walking through one of the side doors and asked us to follow her. Blown away doesn’t even begin to describe what happened next. You know that point in Wizard of Oz when Dorothy walks around her house after the tornado and it’s filmed in Black and White and then she opens the door and walks outside into technicolor? That’s literally what happened to me. As the door opened, another world opened up.
The room was dimly lit in a perfect way, to my left was a very long wrap-around bar and behind (or in front, depending on how you’re standing) were various seating booths with velvet and leather seats. Words of welcome and greetings came from all around as we reunited with more of our friends from the garden.
As we were waiting for brunch, we stood around with cocktails of course, and chatted about the previous day's events when we were almost rained out of gardening! Once brunch was out of the way, it was time to get busy, we were there for an Irish coffee workshop after all. Obviously, we were going to be using Slane Whiskey as the main ingredient. We received a demo of how the Irish coffee is built and then we were on our own to recreate said coffee. We all did pretty well if you ask me but then again, it was 10:30 in the morning and we were already on cocktail two or three and we were flying out in a few hours.
It was a whirlwind event. In less than 24 hours, I met some of the most amazing humans, had some amazing cocktails made from Slane Irish Whiskey of course, ate some absolutely delicious food, and at noon I was on my way back to the airport. My only regret is that the events didn’t last longer. It was definitely not enough time to explore and experience the wonders that Atlanta’s food scene and cocktail scenes have to offer. Especially that hotel. My God, that hotel.
One More Whiskey Tasting After I Return to Chicago
Irish Coffee using Slane Irish Whiskey
Photo courtesy of Joe Eats World
Fast forward a few weeks later as I’m back home in Chicago, I get invited to a dinner and whiskey tasting for Slane. Unfortunately, I wasn’t able to make the dinner but I did get a chance to hang out a The Kerryman and experience blending my own whiskey and tasting even more Slane Irish Whiskey concoctions. We laughed about the rainstorm in Atlanta and talked about how amazing the people were, how good the food was, and how we went through A LOT of whiskey. One of the reps from a GlenDronach Scotch and Cheese pairing event I attended was there and we talked about how amazing everything there was.
If you’re a whiskey fan, you should do yourself a favor and pick up a bottle or 2 of Slane’s. They’re making some pretty good stuff. Even though they’re a young-ish company, they have some great things on the horizon.
This post was originally published on Joe Eats World