Dear Ask Lambda Legal,
I’m a former U.S. service member who was discharged under “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.” Now that the law has been repealed, can I re-enlist? What can I do about my discharge status?
First, I’d like to thank you for your service to the United States – all of us feel immense gratitude for your bravery and commitment.
On Sept. 20, 2011, the discriminatory law known as “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT) was repealed, and, as a result, lesbian, gay, and bisexual service members can now be open about their sexual orientation, if they so choose, without fear of discharge. However, the repeal will not automatically reinstate the estimated 14,500 service members who were discharged under DADT— like you — nor the tens of thousands more who were discharged under the discriminatory policies that preceded DADT.
Although the majority of those discharged under DADT received honorable discharges, hundreds of others did not. Less than honorable discharges can have lasting impact, such as limiting access to GI Bill protections and benefits or Veterans Administration health care. In addition, veterans often must submit their discharge paperwork when applying for jobs outside the military, and the problem of “bad paper” can harm employment prospects.
Discharge documents can “out” someone to potential employers, and if the paperwork indicates less than honorable circumstances, employers may conclude that the person had engaged in misconduct. If you did not receive an honorable discharge, but should have, you may now be eligible to upgrade your discharge, depending on your individual circumstances.
Regarding your interest in re-enlistment, prior service members discharged under DADT are evaluated according to the same criteria as other service members seeking re-entry, without regard to their sexual orientation.
This is especially important for female and minority service members, who were disproportionately discharged under DADT. For example, in 2008, non-white service members represented 29.4 percent of the total military population, but 45 percent of all DADT discharges, and women made up 15 percent of the armed forces but 34 percent of discharges (sources: www.palmcenter.org, www.servicemembersunited.org).
Finally, it’s important to remember that the repeal of DADT falls short of protecting everyone in the LGBT community and those living with HIV. The medical regulatory ban is still in place for aspiring or current service members who are transgender. The Defense of Marriage Act, or DOMA, prevents the military from providing spousal benefits to same-sex partners, even if you were married in a state that has marriage equality laws. People living with HIV are still prohibited from enlisting in the armed forces, and those already enlisted who test positive face assignment limitations.
As far as we’ve come, there’s still much work that remains.
Peter Renn is a staff attorney in the Western Regional Office of Lambda Legal, which works toward achieving the civil rights of members of the LGBT community and people with HIV. If you have any questions or need legal information, contact Lambda Legal’s Help Desk at www.lambdalegal.org/help.
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HIV progress with treatment plans.
By Dr. Thanes Vanig, Founder and Chief Medical Officer at Spectrum Medical Care Center
I saw my first case of HIV when I was a medical student in Bangkok, and it was incredibly sad. I compare the beginning of the HIV epidemic to the COVID-19 pandemic when the disease was an alarming mystery. Patients were locked up in their rooms. We had to wear gowns, gloves, masks, a suit, and full personal protective equipment, just to see them. We were afraid of what we didn’t know.
In 1996, just one year before I opened Spectrum Medical Care Center, a major medical breakthrough changed everything for people with an HIV-positive diagnosis. You could now survive HIV, thanks to the introduction of highly active antiretroviral therapy. I went from regularly losing patients to seeing my patients live full lives. We now have the tools and medicine to treat people living with HIV as well as those who are at risk of acquiring HIV.
I think the end of the HIV epidemic is possible but only attainable through testing. This is why reducing the stigma around HIV is so important. Stigma is rooted in fear and prevents people from not just getting tested but seeking medical care and medications so their viral load is undetectable. When a person’s viral load is undetectable, they cannot transmit the virus to others (undetectable equals untransmittable). Knowing your status helps you choose options to stay healthy and protect others. For National HIV Testing Day on June 27 and beyond, join the effort to end the HIV epidemic by doing the following:
- Get Tested. HIV can affect anyone regardless of sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, gender, age, or where they live. Anyone who is sexually active is at risk for contracting HIV, not just certain groups of people. HIV testing is the pathway to getting the care needed to stay healthy, regardless of your test result, and there are free testing resources available in your community. For instance, our “Testing After Dark” program provides free HIV and STI testing from 5 p.m.- 7 p.m. on the second and fourth Tuesdays of every month at our clinic. And this year, Walgreens, a household name, is organizing a national effort to end HIV by delivering free HIV testing and information through partnerships with health departments and community organizations across the country. We’ll be teaming up with one of the Walgreens locations in Phoenix to provide free HIV testing on National HIV Testing Day, and you can find a participating store near you by searching this interactive map.
- Self Reflection. Take time to self-reflect on whether you hold negative attitudes or beliefs about people living with HIV. Believing that only a certain group of people can get HIV, making moral judgments about people who take steps to prevent HIV transmission, or feeling that people deserve to get HIV because of their choices, all contribute to stigma.
- Talk Openly. When you talk openly about HIV, it can help normalize the subject. It also provides the space to correct misconceptions and help others learn more about HIV. But be mindful of how you talk about HIV and people with HIV. Learn which words have negative meanings for people at risk for or living with HIV and which are empowering. Be intentional when you choose your words and mindful of how they can affect those around you.
- Take Action. You can make a difference in stopping HIV stigma by learning more about HIV and sharing that knowledge with others- in person or on social media. I encourage you to get out and meet people who are living with HIV at community events and rallies. Connect with them, hear their stories, and perhaps you’ll find they’re not so different from you after all.
Dr. Thanes Vanig is the founder and Chief Medical Officer of Spectrum Medical Care Center, a Phoenix-based clinic that specializes in state-of-the-art, competent, and compassionate primary care for LGBTQ+ patients. Vanig, who is internationally recognized in HIV Medicine, speaks, publishes, and advises regularly. Dr. Vanig serves on the City of Phoenix Fast Track Cities Initiative and is a leader for the Maricopa START (State of Arizona Rapid Treatment) Program, immediately linking newly diagnosed HIV patients to care.)
National Pride Grant money
The LGBTQIA+ National Grant allows eligible small businesses to receive one of 25 grants totaling $25,000. Founders First is committed to increasing the number of diverse founder-led companies generating over $1 million in revenue and creating premium-wage jobs. To be eligible, the company's founder must identify as LGBTQIA+, have an active U.S.-based business, be the CEO, President, or owner, and employ between 2 and 50 employees
SAN DIEGO (PRWEB) May 06, 2023 -- Founders First CDC (Founders First), a national 501(c)(3) non-profit organization that empowers the expansion of diverse founder-led, revenue-generating businesses alongside TurningPoint Executive Search, is pleased to announce that the inaugural National Pride Grant, a grant fund to support U.S. based LGBTQIA+ small business owners, is now open for pre-registration.
The LGBTQIA+ National Grant allows eligible small businesses to receive one of 25 grants totaling $25,000. Founders First is committed to increasing the number of diverse founder-led companies generating over $1 million in revenue and creating premium-wage jobs. To be eligible, the company's founder must identify as LGBTQIA+, have an active U.S.-based business, be the CEO, President, or owner, and employ between 2 and 50 employees. In addition, annual business revenue should be at most $5M. Pre-registration for the grant has begun, and full registration begins on May 6, 2023. June 6, 2023, is the application deadline, and semi-finalists will be notified by June 18, 2023, with finalists being announced later that month.
Since launching, Founders First CDC has awarded more than $620,000 to minority and underserved business owners throughout the United States, focusing on Texas, Chicago, Southern California, Pennsylvania, and New Jersey regions.
“Receiving a grant through Founders First CDC was a turning point for my law firm. With their support, I was able to participate in an accelerator course that provided me with essential business skills and transformed my mindset, enabling me to take on the role of CEO. The program culminated in a pitch contest that challenged me to step out of my comfort zone and I’m grateful for the experience.” ... Daniel Hernandez CEO/Principal Attorney NextLevel Law
"Given the current state of our economy, small business owners are feeling the brunt of the rising cost of living, inflation, and the challenges to provide goods and services for their customers," says Shaylon Scott, executive director of Founders First CDC. “This is our first year hosting the Pride Grant, and we are so excited. Our mission at Founders First is to support the needs of diverse communities.” ...Kim Folsom, founder, chairperson, and CEO of Founders First adds, “The LGBTQIA+ is one of many underserved and under-resourced groups we look to support through our small business grants and accelerator programs. By providing recognition and representation, this grant also brings inspiration to other LGBTQ+ business owners.”
According to the U.S. Chamber of Commerce, there are 1.4 million LGBTQ-owned businesses in the United States alone. Of this group, the National LGBT Chamber of Commerce (NGLCC) estimated in 2017 that its 900+ members have created 33,000 jobs and have contributed $1.7 trillion to the U.S. economy.
Shaylon Scott adds, “LGBTQ-owned small businesses are essential for a thriving LGBTQ+ community and an inclusive economy. These businesses create local jobs and provide needed goods and services. U.S.-based LGBTQ+ businesses can apply for the National Pride Grant. Twenty-five businesses will receive $1,000 each, and they can use those funds for anything to support their business, whether it's marketing, technology, or something else to support their business growth.”
These types ofLGBTQIA+ grants are essential. According to the Federal Small Business Credit Survey (SBCS), of those LGBTQIA+ businesses denied financing, they were more likely than non-LGBTQ businesses to explain that weak sales led to their denial (35% vs. 26%). They added that lenders did not approve financing for “businesses like theirs” (33% vs. 24%) or that lack of documentation contributed to their rejection for funding (15% vs. 6%). Also, from this survey, 85% of LGBTQIA+ firms reported the pandemic negatively affected their business, compared to only 76% of non-LGBTQ firms.
Besides applying for this grant starting May 6, 2023, how can folks help now? Shaylon Scott explains, “everyone can be a force for change by supporting this grant, sharing it with their friends and family, and business owners in their communities. You can also support our cause by donating to the grant fund, which allows us to continue to help more diverse small businesses across the country.”
For more information and to pre-register, go to National Pride Grant.
About Founders First CDC
Founders First CDC is a non-profit 501c3 that was founded in 2015 and has received significant support from the regional community reinvestment banks to empower diverse founder-led, revenue-generating small businesses through three primary programs: (1) Founders Challenge; (2) Founders Bootcamp; and (3) Founders FastPath. By building recurring revenues, tech-enablement, and essential solution focus, Founders First is a catalyst for positive change for underserved entrepreneurs and founders to become leading employers in their communities. Learn more at www.foundersfirstcdc.org.
About TurningPoint Executive Search
Businesses rely on TurningPoint to hire top-notch, ethical, and thoroughly screened professionals in a timely manner and at a fair price. Our executive search firm provides a personalized and collaborative approach to executive recruiting, delivering more than just a simple resume or bio. Our process leverages in-depth research, direct recruiting, and comprehensive in-person screening to produce a well-rounded slate of candidates for each search. We source and present candidates with the technical skills, business acumen, and communication style that will impact our client’s top and bottom lines. Our clients expect this type of engagement from their executive recruitment partner.
The Perfect Jean
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I don’t know what it is with men’s jeans that make it so difficult to find the right pair. It takes time to go through all these denim brands and try styles like straight-legged, boot-cut, and then the disco favorite, flared jeans. Thanks to popular metal bands back in the day, acid-washed and stone-washed jeans were a thing–pair those with a biker jacket and some big hair, and you were set.
Honestly, I don’t know why it took so long for stretch pants to enter men’s wardrobe. We’ve been looking at stretch pants for years, wondering what the appeal was and why women always wore them everywhere until I had my first pair of jeans with a bit of stretch. And don’t even get me started on my above-the-knee stretch shorts!
While I was mainly a Levi’s and Khakis guy, I had my first stretch outfit with the Mizen+Main pants, dress shirt, and quarter zip sweater. Complete game-changer in apparel, and where have they been all my life?
That’s where The Perfect Jean comes in. They contacted me to inform me about their “unbelievably comfortable stretch denim.” I checked out their site and perused the jeans and their descriptions (which are hilarious, by the way), and I knew I needed to try them.
When shopping for jeans on their site, they break it down for you starting with the fit you prefer.
When they arrived, I tried them on without first washing them because I’m a kid in the candy store when it comes to new things. They looked and felt like a regular pair of denim jeans but with a stretch. I walked around the house bending, sitting, and stretching my legs to test them out–sure enough, they bent and moved along with me, unlike my other jeans.
Me in my Perfect JeanJoe Morales
What is Stretch Denim?
Stretch denim is a type of denim containing a small amount of elastane, a synthetic fiber that allows for stretch and flexibility in the fabric. This addition of elastane provides the perfect balance between comfort and style, making stretch denim the ideal choice for anyone looking for a more comfortable pair of jeans. Think spandex, lycra, or any stretchy material.
My Thoughts on The Perfect Jean
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I gave them their initial wash in cold water and didn’t put them in the dryer. I don’t dry my jeans or trousers in the dryer so they will last longer. I love how comfortable they are, and how much stretch they have is perfect. I love the deep indigo color.
The only thing I would do differently is change the fit type because after wearing them for a few months, I felt the fit wasn’t quite there, but that was on me and how I ordered them. I did end up drying the jeans in the dryer so they would shrink a little. They fit much better now after the controlled drying, but they’re still a little loose in the waist and butt and a little longer than I like, which is fine because I can take them to a tailor and have them hemmed.
How to Choose The Perfect Jean
Form fitting jeansJoe Morales
The descriptions say it all. You can choose between five cuts and about ten colors; waist and length are your standard options. Every jean is made from cotton, polyester, viscose, and spandex and has about 22 percent elasticity! These jeans are also perfect for travel since they weigh under 11 ounces; you can shove them in your bag or luggage without causing a huge increase in luggage weight.
Fit
One of the first things you need to determine is the fit, and The Perfect Jean has them all. You can choose between skinny, slim, slim thick, athletic, bootcut, or Thick Thicc. Your style is based on personal preferences and body type, but if you aren’t sure, look at the different examples from The Perfect Jean site.
Material
While stretch is essential, you don't want a pair of jeans that are too stretchy. Look for a pair with just enough stretch to make them comfortable but not so much that they lose shape over time. Luckily, these jeans are made of roughly 67 percent cotton; at least mine are. That means they will be more durable than if you were to rely on just stretch alone, which can break down quickly.
Wash
There is a lot of talk about how denim should have a wash that complements your skin tone, whether a dark wash or a lighter, distressed wash. I’m not sure if I necessarily believe that. This is where your personal style comes into play. My personal style is staying with classic colors because I can build a wardrobe on specific pieces. Choose whatever color works best for you, as long as they fit well!
The Benefits of Stretch Denim
The most obvious benefit of stretch denim is the added comfort. The fabric moves with you, making them more comfortable for long periods. They don’t bunch up in the wrong places.
Another benefit of The Perfect Jean, or TPJ, as they’re known to call themselves, is that they strive to be as sustainable as possible. They teamed up with the Better Cotton Initiative (BCI), which promotes better standards for cotton production worldwide.
How to Style Stretch Denim Jeans
The Perfect Jean is versatile and can be styled in many different ways. Usually, my go-to is casual wear with a simple T-shirt and sneakers, but I have been known to dress them up a bit with a button-down or sweater paired with my suede Chelsea boots or Grant Stone Plain Toe dress shoes.
Where to Buy The Perfect Jean
You can purchase your pair of Ther Perfect Jean by visiting their website and following the fit guidelines, choosing your favorite colors, and choosing your waist and length sizes.
My Final Thoughts on The Perfect Jean
Jeans are a wardrobe staple for everyone, offering style and comfort. However, traditional denim can sometimes be restrictive and uncomfortable, especially regarding movement. Stretch denim—or any stretch clothing—is a game-changer. While I can’t tell you to buy a pair of The Perfect Jeans, I can certainly recommend them. I wear my Perfect Jeans once or twice a week, and they’re comfortable when I feel a bit lazy, yet, they’re a stylish option when I am going out. The next time I order some, I’m trying a different fit, but what color should l get?