Juxtaposing two events in Nashville
By now many of us have heard that Davidson Academy, a Christian private school based in Nashville, denied admission to a couple’s children because their parents are gay. But this is not a battle between the Christian and LGBT communities. These two communities have always overlapped.
"Every family has dreams of a great education for their children, so we can all understand how heartbreaking Brian and Greg's story is,” said Chris Sanders, the Executive Director of the Tennessee Equality Project regarding the family of Brian Copeland and Greg Bullard. “Their courage and grace give us models for starting the kinds of conversations that need to happen in Tennessee. I believe, whether they like it or not, Davidson Academy is going to have that conversation internally and with the public now.”
This school says that they “strongly believe in a strict interpretation of the Scriptures regarding the institution of marriage.” I would imagine that this school doesn’t investigate the heterosexual behavior of their staff and the families of students, but perhaps they do. Didn’t Jesus say, "Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these?” Did he add, just not the children of a certain sort of couple?
This couple just wants their children to have a Christian education and as Copeland has stated: “discrimination and inequality [are] alive and well.” On January 23rd, the Human Rights Campaign (HRC) condemned the actions of Davidson Academy. Ellen Kahn, the Director of HRC’s Foundation’s Children, Youth and Families Program said that the school “contradicted its own Christian values with this decision - discrimination is not a Christian value.” But there is a Christian value about loving each other.
Hold onto that thought while we explore some other news of the past week here in town. Nashville Public Radio reported on January 21, “For the past 7 years Nashville’s Brooks Fund has collected the stories of what it was to be homosexual in Middle Tennessee before 1970.” Nina Cardona told a few of the tales that have been collected, noting that the Brooks Fund is continuing to collect such stories from Mid-TN’s LGBT community and that these are being archived in the Nashville Public Library.
Isn’t that a sign of progress, honoring and commemorating these people and their historical experiences? It seems that both progress and regression are happening in Nashville these days.
Having just celebrated the life of Martin Luther King, Jr., I recall his words: “The arc of the moral universe is long, but it bends towards justice.” And, even though we have many different types of people in our nation, our Pledge of Allegiance still says “…one Nation under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.”
Let’s define “all.”
Does it mean only the ones who think like me, look like me, worship like me, fall in love like me? Davidson Academy and other Christian schools throughout the nation may well choose to re-evaluate their mission and screening criteria now, thanks to the nationwide outcry that has resulted from the dismissal of the Copeland/Bullard child. What an excellent opportunity resulting from prejudice and bias, even though private schools certainly have the option to select the students they want to educate.
Let’s also think about how we were raised by parents, religious institutions and schools and how we often hold onto some of the values that we learned through osmosis and role modeling, even during our rebellious phases. I was raised in a Christian church in the Mississippi Delta in the 1960’s with compassionate and liberal parents. I was taught that being Christian meant what Jesus preached: loving our neighbors as ourselves and calling out injustices between people and groups.
It is time for everyone to take a step back and reassess what they believe and if they call themselves Christian, why are some casting out other Christians, judging them harshly and denying them services, while they accept others? Isn’t it about time for our nation to put to rest the discrimination toward LGBT people and move into the 21st century? We have come a long way but we still have such a long way to go.
Now that the Supreme Court has decided to hear marriage cases originating in the 6th Circuit that upheld state-level bans against same-sex marriage, we hope that the Supremes will finally make an excellent decision for the LGBT community. I believe that denying equal rights to the LGBT community is an abomination.
Barbara Sanders, LCSW, is a psychotherapist in Nashville: http://synergeticresolutions.blogspot.com