It’s been a lot of work since winning the bid to bring the International Gay Bowler’s Organization (IGBO) to Kansas City two years ago but according to the organizers it’s been well worth it. They’re now only a few weeks away from the actual six day conference May 24-29.
Three officers of IGBO Kansas City met with Camp recently: Leonard Bain, director of marketing and revenue; Jim Willard, director of operations, and Julie Roberts, public relations coordinator. Their goal is to have at least 500 people registered and already 358 bowlers have signed up. “But we all know that we all wait until the very last minute to send our entries in” laughed Bain. Teams are registered from all over the United States and some international locales including Toronto, Vancouver, and Calgary in Canada, and possibly Australia.
IGBO schedules its annual conference over Memorial Day to make it easier for bowlers to attend without having to take too much vacation time. Bain credited Kansas City’s draw as a host city because of its central location for travelers flying in from the coast, the south, or the north and those traveling by car in the greater Midwest. Many of the bowlers will extend their stay either in advance of or after the conference by a few days to enjoy Kansas City.
This is the first time that IGBO has been held in Kansas City, though it did bid in the late ‘80’s, when it lost to Seattle, said Bain. Roberts added. “Actually a lot of the bowlers that we talk to for many years have encouraged us saying you guys should have one, so finally we succumbed.” “We’ve got a great city to show them” she said. “A lot of people have a misconception of Kansas City if they haven’t been here so I think a lot of them will be surprised.”
Roberts went on to say that Kansas City is “one of the few communities that I know of where the men and women actually socialize,” referring to the more separatist communities in other cities. “One of the things I like about IGBO is that it’s about unity,” Willard added. “There’s enough division going on in the country between Democrats and Republicans, gays and straights, and you don’t need that within your organization.”
Like other events such as Kansas City Gay Pride or the Creating Change Conference that brings visitors, IGBO also means valuable tourism dollars being brought into the local economy. The Westin Hotel is the host hotel, Midwest Express is the host airline, and Enterprise Rental Cars the host rental car company. “Midwest Express, our host airline, found that out real quick,” said Bain. He told a story about the Midwest Airlines sales rep that made the offer to IGBO Milwaukee to be their host airline for last year’s conference. When meeting with the Milwaukee IGBO recently the group told Bain that the sales rep from Midwest Airlines commented that her boss really didn’t realize how much money was spent until they went in and looked at the results of the promotional code. The boss then told the rep. “Make the deals whenever possible.” Bain commented on how much power the gay dollar can mean “If we can get more companies to realize that there is money in the gay community.”
IGBO currently has 170 member leagues and 60 tournaments. The annual MAKIT (Missouri and Kansas Invitational Tournament) over the Easter weekend, for instance, draws between 200 and 250 people. Next year will be the 25th annual MAKIT tournament.
The relationships that the gay bowlers have with the local bowling alleys in Kansas City where they play is one of mutual respect and fun. They all commented that they’ve had great experiences at the bowling alleys where they play and it’s never an issue to have a gay bowling team playing next to a straight team. They also mentioned that the bowling alleys support them and know their group is fun. One year during their annual MAKIT tournament they suggested to their lane waitress that she trade places with her hunky husband, who was bartending. Bain said, “We walked up to her and said you really need to get your husband out here, if you want the money since it’s all in your family. He worked the lanes and after the tournament he had made enough in tips to make two house payments.”
One local group has been bowling next to a straight team for over five years. “I think they were taken back at the very beginning, then they figured out we were harmless enough and just really go to have a good time. And we have good bowlers, and people are surprised about that,” said Roberts.
The last few MAKIT tournaments have been held at the AMF Northland. “Although we don’t have a huge presence there during the year, we’ve been having it there for so long they know us, they like us, they welcome us back,” said Roberts. Willard added, “With open arms.” “MAKIT has a theme every year during the tournament and they want to know because they decorate the bowling alley, get in costumes, based on whatever the theme is for the tournament. “They really are part of the festivities and make it a lot more fun for the bowlers,”said Roberts. Bain said AMF Northland seemed incredulous that there was no theme for the IGBO tournament but was nonetheless excited to have it. “AMF knows how much money the tournaments bring in, said Bain. “They’re supportive. Particularly with AMF Northland, gay means fun,” said Roberts.
Every year the IGBO Conference works with The Names Project to have panels of the AIDS Quilt shipped in to remember people from that tournament’s region who have died. There will be 10 panels displayed on one wall of a conference room at the Westin Hotel during the conference. IGBO will also hold a memorial service to commemorate the memory of those the Quilt represents, appropriately over the Memorial Day weekend.
The tournament will be held at three alleys: AMF Northland for team events, AMF Pro Bowl for singles and doubles, and AMF West on Sunday for “Scratch Masters” competition. Though the tournament keeps the bowlers busy with the games, it also features cocktail hours, a Women’s Social (men invited if accompanied by a woman), a pub crawl, ice skating at AMF West, and tickets to Kansas T-Bones games. There will be 49 awards of trophies and money and “206 raffle prizes for the year 2006” given out during the tournament.
It’s also a family affair. Members bring partners, children, and parents. One family brings an RV and parks in the parking lot along with their pets. “It’s a whole new meaning to family values,” said Willard.
IGBO is a non-profit organization and any monies left over after the event will be donated to three charities selected by IGBO, although the beneficiaries cannot be announced in advance. IGBO is also assisted by volunteers from local Kansas City organizations like HASL (Heart of America Softball League), MGRA (Missouri Gay Rodeo Association), Kansas City WAVES swim team, KCAVP (Kansas City Anti Violence Project), and PrideFloat.” The local IGBO team returns the favor by volunteering at their events. “I’m still trying to garner some volunteers to be lane monitors, get score corrections, and more,” said Julie Roberts.
“It’s down to the point now where it’s finally coming to an end and we’re starting to get a little nervous” said Willard whose work as director of operations is only beginning.
The local chapter has developed a close relationship with their “sister city” of Milwaukee. They helped with the tournament there in 2005 and Milwaukee is helping with the Kansas City tournament this year.
IGBO will also be sending a team to the July 2006 Gay Games in Chicago. IGBO is a voting member of the Federation of Gay Games. One of the representatives for the Chicago Gay Games is a bowler and will be at the Kansas City IGBO tournament.
Registration to bowl in the tournament closes May 10. Volunteers and sponsors are still welcomed. The full schedule of events will be posted on their website.
IGBO has weekly meetings between now and the tournament at Planet Sub, 51st and Main, Kansas City.
For more information, visit: www.igbo2006.org for the Kansas City Tournament. For the national group e-mail: igbo2006@kc.rr.com
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The Perfect Jean
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I don’t know what it is with men’s jeans that make it so difficult to find the right pair. It takes time to go through all these denim brands and try styles like straight-legged, boot-cut, and then the disco favorite, flared jeans. Thanks to popular metal bands back in the day, acid-washed and stone-washed jeans were a thing–pair those with a biker jacket and some big hair, and you were set.
Honestly, I don’t know why it took so long for stretch pants to enter men’s wardrobe. We’ve been looking at stretch pants for years, wondering what the appeal was and why women always wore them everywhere until I had my first pair of jeans with a bit of stretch. And don’t even get me started on my above-the-knee stretch shorts!
While I was mainly a Levi’s and Khakis guy, I had my first stretch outfit with the Mizen+Main pants, dress shirt, and quarter zip sweater. Complete game-changer in apparel, and where have they been all my life?
That’s where The Perfect Jean comes in. They contacted me to inform me about their “unbelievably comfortable stretch denim.” I checked out their site and perused the jeans and their descriptions (which are hilarious, by the way), and I knew I needed to try them.
When shopping for jeans on their site, they break it down for you starting with the fit you prefer.
When they arrived, I tried them on without first washing them because I’m a kid in the candy store when it comes to new things. They looked and felt like a regular pair of denim jeans but with a stretch. I walked around the house bending, sitting, and stretching my legs to test them out–sure enough, they bent and moved along with me, unlike my other jeans.
Me in my Perfect JeanJoe Morales
What is Stretch Denim?
Stretch denim is a type of denim containing a small amount of elastane, a synthetic fiber that allows for stretch and flexibility in the fabric. This addition of elastane provides the perfect balance between comfort and style, making stretch denim the ideal choice for anyone looking for a more comfortable pair of jeans. Think spandex, lycra, or any stretchy material.
My Thoughts on The Perfect Jean
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I gave them their initial wash in cold water and didn’t put them in the dryer. I don’t dry my jeans or trousers in the dryer so they will last longer. I love how comfortable they are, and how much stretch they have is perfect. I love the deep indigo color.
The only thing I would do differently is change the fit type because after wearing them for a few months, I felt the fit wasn’t quite there, but that was on me and how I ordered them. I did end up drying the jeans in the dryer so they would shrink a little. They fit much better now after the controlled drying, but they’re still a little loose in the waist and butt and a little longer than I like, which is fine because I can take them to a tailor and have them hemmed.
How to Choose The Perfect Jean
Form fitting jeansJoe Morales
The descriptions say it all. You can choose between five cuts and about ten colors; waist and length are your standard options. Every jean is made from cotton, polyester, viscose, and spandex and has about 22 percent elasticity! These jeans are also perfect for travel since they weigh under 11 ounces; you can shove them in your bag or luggage without causing a huge increase in luggage weight.
Fit
One of the first things you need to determine is the fit, and The Perfect Jean has them all. You can choose between skinny, slim, slim thick, athletic, bootcut, or Thick Thicc. Your style is based on personal preferences and body type, but if you aren’t sure, look at the different examples from The Perfect Jean site.
Material
While stretch is essential, you don't want a pair of jeans that are too stretchy. Look for a pair with just enough stretch to make them comfortable but not so much that they lose shape over time. Luckily, these jeans are made of roughly 67 percent cotton; at least mine are. That means they will be more durable than if you were to rely on just stretch alone, which can break down quickly.
Wash
There is a lot of talk about how denim should have a wash that complements your skin tone, whether a dark wash or a lighter, distressed wash. I’m not sure if I necessarily believe that. This is where your personal style comes into play. My personal style is staying with classic colors because I can build a wardrobe on specific pieces. Choose whatever color works best for you, as long as they fit well!
The Benefits of Stretch Denim
The most obvious benefit of stretch denim is the added comfort. The fabric moves with you, making them more comfortable for long periods. They don’t bunch up in the wrong places.
Another benefit of The Perfect Jean, or TPJ, as they’re known to call themselves, is that they strive to be as sustainable as possible. They teamed up with the Better Cotton Initiative (BCI), which promotes better standards for cotton production worldwide.
How to Style Stretch Denim Jeans
The Perfect Jean is versatile and can be styled in many different ways. Usually, my go-to is casual wear with a simple T-shirt and sneakers, but I have been known to dress them up a bit with a button-down or sweater paired with my suede Chelsea boots or Grant Stone Plain Toe dress shoes.
Where to Buy The Perfect Jean
You can purchase your pair of Ther Perfect Jean by visiting their website and following the fit guidelines, choosing your favorite colors, and choosing your waist and length sizes.
My Final Thoughts on The Perfect Jean
Jeans are a wardrobe staple for everyone, offering style and comfort. However, traditional denim can sometimes be restrictive and uncomfortable, especially regarding movement. Stretch denim—or any stretch clothing—is a game-changer. While I can’t tell you to buy a pair of The Perfect Jeans, I can certainly recommend them. I wear my Perfect Jeans once or twice a week, and they’re comfortable when I feel a bit lazy, yet, they’re a stylish option when I am going out. The next time I order some, I’m trying a different fit, but what color should l get?
The Best Cannabis Edibles for 2023
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I think we’ve all been there back in the day when we smoked our first joint, and then some, (sorry mom)–hacking, coughing, and choking on the herbaceous weed. Nowadays, there are several products on the market that produces the same effects but without a sore throat like the popular cannabis edibles.
These extremely popular products have hit mainstream markets across the country and are setting sales records. Some of the strongest edibles can reach 30 mg of THC but remember to check the labeling because not all edibles are created equal. Some edibles have THC while others are marketed as having CBD.
You can purchase THC and CBD in the form of tinctures, gummies, chocolates, and even ready-to-drink cocktails and beverages. Remember, THC is what gets you high, and CBD can help with relaxation and calmness. What’s more, the edible flavors are endless. I’m by no means an expert but I did try out a couple of products just to see how effective they are. For the record, I wasn’t using them to get high throughout the day–okay, there was this one time my friend gave me an edible while we were out, but that’s another story. I actually have a difficult time sleeping through the night and the thought of continually taking sleeping pills, or products like Zzzquil, where you wake up in a foggy mess, isn’t appealing.
I want something that is going to put me to sleep, keep me asleep, and wake me up feeling rested and refreshed. The best type of edible products for me is those that put you to sleep. In case you weren’t aware, there are edibles out there that can get you high, feel good, and relaxed. Others are made specifically for relaxation, sleep, or even anxiety.
Dad Grass
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Dad Grass CBD Tincture
The Dad Grass brand has several product forms but the one I tried was the tincture. With the tincture and dropper, you simply place drops under your tongue about 30 minutes before bed. It’s made using 100% organic hemp flower grown in the U.S., and doesn’t include any herbicides, pesticides, or additives.
It does have a high dose of CBD and CBN (slightly psychoactive) but I found that the grassy smell and flavor didn’t make me high. Rather, it gave me a calming feeling and I felt relaxed enough to fall asleep. It has a grassy smell and the flavor is what you would expect to taste like; grassy and slightly bitter. It wasn’t my favorite, but it’s a passing moment and not completely horrible to taste.
Really, the hardest part was placing it under your tongue for 30 seconds. You immediately begin to salivate and your instinct is to swallow. I don’t know how effective it is to do this, so I tried swallowing it immediately as well as placing it sublingually. To be honest, I don’t know if I could tell the difference. Further testing is required.
Pros
Easy Application
High CBD
Cons
Grassy Flavor
Incredibles
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Incredibles S'mores Bar 100mg THC
For me, this was the best type of edible because it had a bit more kick to it due to the added THC. The packaging says 100 mg of THC but really each square is 10 mg each with 10 squares of chocolate. The S’mores Infused Edibles solves two problems at once. Chocolatey snack for the sweet tooth and sleep-inducing qualities from the THC. Usually, you can take half a square to a full square to figure out which dosage works best for you.
One square a night right before bed and you’re good to go (to sleep). They do offer several other options with THC and some with a combination of THC and CBD for added effect. I’m not a huge fan of S’mores but in chocolate bar form, they were pretty good.
I always say I’m not a sweets kind of person but then they show me chocolate and I’m a goner. The packaging is childproof and funny. They make the jokes like Boom. Roasted. At least I hope it’s a joke because that’s what I take it at. You’re high Clairee…Anyway, they have several types of edible products to choose from like hard candies, gummies, and sours. The downside is that you’re paying a lot for 10 squares of chocolate mixed with THC. Definitely not a deal breaker but for a month’s supply, that could add up.
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Taste Great
THC Based
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Pricey
What to Consider When Buying Edibles
Type of Relief
The first thing on your list should be what you want out of your edible. If you’re looking for a feel-good high, then THC is. If you’re wanting to relax and calm your mind without the high feeling, then CBD (and possibly CBN) is where it’s at. However, there are options for THC and CBD giving you the best of both worlds.
Ingredients
It goes without saying but you should always choose all-natural products with no additives, preservatives, or chemicals. THC and CBD should be derived from U.S.-based ingredients. However, even some of the best cannabis edibles will have added sugar and flavorings, it’s unavoidable but the base products themselves should be free of harmful chemicals.
Lab Tested
Sometimes it’s hard to tell but the THC, CBD, and CBN ingredients should be lab-tested. When a product is lab-tested, they ensure it’s free of chemicals, pesticides, heavy metals, and contaminants. They can also verify the potency of the product you’re about to consume.
Flavor and Potency
Luckily, you can find THC and CBD in just about any flavor and potency level. You need to know what your tolerance level is and adjust accordingly. Too little of a dosage will be ineffective and too high of a dosage can be a serious issue.
Frequently Asked Questions
What edibles are best for beginners?
This depends on the product you are going to eat but it’s always a good idea to start small, like 5 mg of THC. With CBD, you can start with a higher dosage because it’s not as psychoactive as THC. Once you are comfortable with this, you can adjust according to your needs.
Do edibles give you a hangover?
Edibles don’t typically cause hangover-like symptoms but that’s not to say they can’t. Cannabis stays in your body much longer than alcohol does and it can sometimes feel like you have a hangover. If this happens, you should definitely cut back on your dosage or just take a break from edibles.
What is the difference between THC and CBD?
- THC, also known as Tetrahydrocannabinol, is the psychoactive ingredient in cannabis. This is what gives you the “high” feeling and is mind-altering.
- CBD, also known as Cannabidiol, is derived from the hemp plant, is not addictive, and is used for more medicinal applications. It does not contain THC so, therefore, is not mind-altering.
How long does it take for edibles to kick in?
Edibles can take anywhere from 10 minutes to a few hours to kick in. Also, ingesting THC or CBD is much more potent and longer lasting.
Final Thoughts
Having the best cannabis edibles comes down to personal preference and needs. I use them for their sleep-inducing qualities. I am perfectly fine using edibles made with CBD, THC, or a combination as long as I can sleep and sleep well! Now that cannabis is legal in over 20 states and territories, you can find a dispensary that offers a variety of products. There is nothing wrong with cannabis and its use; the stigma it once had is thankfully diminishing however, as with any substance, partake responsibly.
As an LGBTQ+ patient, you should be able to expect the same high-quality care provided to all patients. Unfortunately, this doesn’t necessarily always prove to be the case. There remains a notoriously significant disparity in healthcare outcomes for LGBTQ+ patients, often related to issues with discrimination among providers.
Even when you find a good physician, this doesn’t mean that everyone interacting with your healthcare information will be as respectful or responsible. It is, therefore, important to be vigilant about how your data is handled. You have a right to privacy just as you have an expectation of fair treatment.
Let’s take a closer look at how you can effectively safeguard your medical information as an LGBTQ+ patient.
Select Your Providers Carefully
Being selective about your choice of medical providers is always important. Primarily, of course, you should be mindful of the level of care each potential professional is likely to provide. This is something that’s particularly relevant to those in the LGBTQ+ community, as quality can vary depending on the provider’s personal biases. Nevertheless, it is also important to be selective about your providers from the perspective of how secure your medical information is likely to be.
It can be wise to reach out to friends in the community. Ask about their experiences with local healthcare providers and how their sensitive data has been handled. If possible, enquire about the response when coming out to their doctor and how this information was recorded in their medical records. Look at online reviews and assess reports about facilities’ past data breaches.
This certainly requires some upfront research effort on your part. However, being vigilant at this stage isn’t just a way to protect your data. It’s also an investment in your comfort and mental well-being. After all, choosing a supportive and considerate care professional means you can talk to them about any challenges you may be facing with confidence and peace of mind.
Insist on Control of Your Data
It’s important to understand that you have a significant amount of control over your care as a patient. Not only can you request second opinions and alternative providers when you feel they’re necessary. You can also make requests about the flow of your data across the care network. Remember that the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) respects patients’ wishes on how their information is handled.
From an individual practice perspective, this can involve having frank and open conversations with your doctor about the storage and movement of records within the facility. Gain an understanding of how your information is stored and who has access to it. If you have objections to the processes or even certain staff members, you can make stipulations about limiting access unless in specific circumstances.
The control of your data becomes especially important when you are utilizing care across a range of collaborating providers. Ensuring all relevant professionals have access to your medical records is an essential part of coordinating your medical care between multiple parties. This will often include information about your entire treatment history and any notes. Nevertheless, your role in this also includes communicating clearly with your doctor about any concerns or requests you have.
Explain what elements of your records you do not want to be provided to third parties unless medically necessary. You can also request that records are only shared and used in a secure electronic manner. This ensures paper copies of sensitive personal information aren’t left laying around, potentially being accessed by medical staff with negative biases.
Utilize Strong Security Measures
Protecting your medical information as an LGBTQ+ patient is not just the responsibility of your medical providers. There will also be times that you interact with your sensitive medical data. It’s important to ensure you’re always taking cybersecurity and physical safeguarding actions to protect your privacy.
It is certainly your right as a patient to access and keep physical copies of your medical records. It may be wise to keep these in a securely locked filing cabinet when not in use. You must also be careful when disposing of these records, though. Recycling personal papers may seem environmentally friendly, but it puts your sensitive data at risk. Make certain you shred your papers first, which mitigates the potential for your information to be read or copied. From here, you may need to locate a specialist recycling facility that accepts shredded documents.
In many cases, though, accessing medical records occurs online. This may be through being emailed by your provider or exchanging via telemedical applications. Utilize secure online practices when using these services. If you are accessing records on public Wi-Fi, make certain you’re using a virtual private network (VPN). Wherever possible, activate multi-factor authentication on your medical accounts and choose strong passwords.
Final Thoughts
Safeguarding your medical data is important both for your privacy and to ensure you receive the unbiased care you deserve. Take the time to research providers and their history of data breaches. Talk to your doctors about your preferences related to any record sharing. Remember to utilize strong security measures when personally interacting with your records. By taking a few effective actions, you can be confident that your information is only accessed and used for positive purposes.