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Tomorrow Will Be Different: Love, Loss, and the Fight for Trans Equality, by Sarah McBride, c. 2018, Crown Archetype, $26, 288 pages

Things are never as bad as they seem.

There’s always a brighter spot if you look for it, always something to be thankful for, a way of making yourself feel better because things aren’t as they seem. As in the new book Tomorrow Will Be Different by Sarah McBride, there’s always a chance to make a change.

Though Sarah McBride was 10 years old the first time she heard the word transgender, she knew from an early age that she was really a girl. Problem was, everyone around her saw her as a boy, and she didn’t want to disillusion them because she didn’t want to disappoint them.

And so, McBride tamped down a feeling of “homesickness” inside herself and she tried to be a boy by dating girls, joining a fraternity at college and doing guy things that felt wrong. It wasn’t until the end of her time as student body president at American University that she took the leap and came out publicly as a woman.

It was a relief, she says, and although there was some initial shock, her friends and family never stopped loving her. For that, she acknowledges her good fortune; a high percentage of her LGBTQ peers aren’t so lucky.

Not long after this major life-changer, McBride made one of her career dreams come true, landing an internship at the Obama White House. She’d been fascinated by politics since she was small and was a campaign volunteer in her home state of Delaware. Starting in the Office of Public Engagement, she was quickly engaged; activism, as McBride learned, was something she could sink her teeth into as a trans woman.

Happier than she’d ever been, McBride’s life continued to rise: She fell in love with Andy, whom she’d met at a party, though she didn’t see him again until he emailed her months later. He was transgender, too – a homegrown Wisconsin boy with a sense of humor, and she adored him. The future was bright.

And then things changed again.

There’s a message inside this book – and it’s not the activism one that you think is there. Oh, there’s no denying that the author is an activist and she’s played a big part in making change, both at the state level and nationally. She’s a history-maker and a shaker. But this book isn’t just about that.

Subtly, McBride makes readers’ brains itch. LGBTQ teens can be fragile, and you’ll watch closer after reading this book. Health care isn’t just an issue for the middle class, and you’ll understand better now. Politics aren’t just something to rant about, and in the midst of all this, believe it or not, you may be better off than you think you are. This book forces a different way of looking at things, but you might not initially notice that as you’re crying over the rest of this memoir.

So bring tissues while you read, and let your brain itch. Let Tomorrow Will Be Different sink in because things can always be better than they seem.



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