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Most of us in the early years of our lives gained and had the support of family, friends, and professionals. This was most likely because we didn't realize what course our lives would take. So, even though some of this article may be slanted toward one sector of the GLBT community, in actuality, it may have segments that hit home for all.
Of course, we must take into account even after we aligned our lives with our part of the GLBTIQ community, that the support of family and friends took place without any of them knowing where any of us truly wanted to be. We built around ourselves a wall, barrier, or we put ourselves into a closet so that no one could come close to finding us out. Yet, that wall may have, at some point in time, acquired pin holes, where it caused people to guess or have clues toward where our life's road was heading.
Then, too, we had to search out extensively for those we could really trust. While, searching for trust worthy professionals, confidentiality was and is very important for anyone in the GLBTIQ community, even today. This confidentiality is needed for many issues and avenues that one faces, not just from family, professionals and friends, but also from co-workers, landlords, and employers. Then, too, we seek out therapists and support groups that can be not only supportive, but also ones in who can be trusted with information on who and what we are.
We search in hopes of finding a group or professional that helps us with the issues facing lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) people and a person that has largely been ignored or pushed aside in the society and schools. There are numerous social taboos surrounding issues of sexuality and LGBTIQ issues in particular. Bringing these issues into the spotlight may make some people aware of how to deal with them. Myths may replace facts, fears may overshadow professional responsibility and those are so important in our search for genuine help professionally of on a peer level with what one is facing.
Let us proceed with the finding of a good therapist or support group. I must say, there are more today, than in years gone by. One must still be careful in selecting one. Choosing one of either is like choosing flavors like, rocky road or an orange smoothie and then making sure they are of a digestible nature, or that of a soured substance. There are still those in the profession that have no idea how to be a therapist for anyone who classifies themselves as transgender and I am sure there are those for lesbians and gays, as well.
A good counselor or facilitator should make a person feel comfortable enough to talk in depth about their problems, but not so comfortable that the person feels no need to work on underlying issues outside the counseling or group sessions. Keep in mind that it's what happens outside the counseling session that makes the difference. The sessions themselves are merely a means to this end. After overcoming the initial nervousness of actually getting to a counseling or group session and sitting down to tell a complete stranger all your problems, a good counselor or facilitator should be working to make you feel comfortable about being there and what you're doing.
A good counselor or facilitator will need to caringly confront blind spots in the person's outlook and challenge them to take sometimes-difficult action that will improve the situation. I'd be inclined to separate these two sources of "discomfort" if you like, since a person seeking help may be reluctant to take the sort of action that may be necessary to address the underlying problem, yet it would be counterproductive for the counselor to allow them to remain stuck where they are. A persons' discomfort with their situation is one of the things that will help motivate them to take action, which may help improve the situation, so in this sense a counselor or facilitator who simply makes the person "feel better" may be doing them a disservice. A good counselor or facilitator should take time to build rapport and listen effectively to the person's feelings and situation first and there should be a balance between feeling heard and feeling challenged and empowered to change the situation.
It's an unfortunate fact that some counselors or group facilitators violate the boundaries and trust of the people who seek their help. If something that happens in a counseling or group session that makes a person feel uncomfortable with the counselor or facilitator, it's worth keeping this in mind since that feeling may be an alarm bell ringing that something is wrong with the process itself. Of course this is difficult because the person seeking help may be in something of a vulnerable position and overwhelmed with what is happening in their lives, and is the professionals or facilitators responsibility to ensure that the boundaries with the person are absolutely respected. I do feel though that knowing more about just what this "counseling of facilitating" thing really entails would help protect people from counselors or facilitators who do violate the trust of the people who seek their help.
Knowing what you want from a counselor will go a long way towards working on the problem you wish to address; although it's probably fair to say that most people going for counseling or support initially "don't know", or rather, they know, but they just don't know where to start - that's why they come. Writing down and prioritizing the things you wish to work on will help focus things, and also shows the counselor or facilitator that you're serious and motivated about working on the problems. A good counselor or facilitator should ask at the beginning of the session what you'd like to work on, or at the very least should pay attention when you try to tell them what you want to focus on. If the counselor or facilitator is determined to put you through an intensive course of hypnotherapy before they've even heard part of the story. It's probably time to find a new counselor or facilitator. On the other hand, they shouldn't completely neglect important issues that the person seeking help may be reluctant to address because they seem difficult, either.
The person seeking help and the counselor or facilitator should work as a team. The counselor or facilitator may have some expertise in problem solving, emotional dynamics, relationships, etc., but it's the person seeking help who is the expert on the situation in question. The best solutions to the problems presented are likely to come from the person seeking help rather than the counselor or facilitator, so the counselor is really there to facilitate the development of these solutions rather than to offer advice which may not be appropriate. Ideally, the person seeking help should have control over what happens, and what they work on -- the counselor or facilitator may offer suggestions at times, but the person seeking help should be empowered to "own" and have the ultimate say over the process. A rocky road flavored counselor or facilitator will offer no suggestions or hope.
Different counselors or facilitators tend to follow different patterns of help, according to their personal preference and the way in which they were trained. The skill of the counselor or facilitator has been shown to be a more important factor in their effectiveness than the particular type of help or practice. A good counselor or facilitator will be able to adjust their counseling or facilitating to the needs of the person, but it's worth keeping in mind that any counselor or facilitator is likely to be more skilled in the particular mode of help that they specialize in. The degree of motivation of the person seeking help is probably generally a greater factor in the effectiveness of counseling or facilitating than the skill of the counselor or facilitator. A orange smoothie flavored counselor or facilitator should be able to maximize the person's motivation to resolve or work on the underlying problems, so the two are intertwined.
It’s the difference in finding genuine help that makes you feel as good as drinking an orange smoothie, or finding help that will have you driving down one of the worst rocky roads in your life.
For those with a thirst to celebrate, Red Bull Unlocked is the key. In city after city, the most exciting bars, clubs, mixologists, performing artists, and more take over a local landmark building to showcase their signature ambiance while also collaborating for a must-see mashup. And now it's Music City’s turn to seize the spotlight, as the event brings 10 bars together in East Nashville’s Five Points neighborhood.
Fueled by the best of Nashville’s thriving music scene, Red Bull Unlocked has curated an eclectic night of show-stopping entertainment performances including a pop-up Whiskey Jam show, DJ sets, musicians, and more. The full lineup is here:
- Whiskey Jam (feat. Dozzi, Willie Shaw, and Johnny Hayes)
- A.B. Eastwood
- Daisha / Rap Girl
- Boom Bap (DJ Collective feat. DJ-Rate, Case Bloom)
- Whiskey Disco (DJ Collective feat. Coach, Jim O'Shea)
- Old Crow Medicine Show’s Jerry Pentercost (DJ Set)
- DJ Stretch
- DJ Griffin Green
- The Play Mates (Drag Show feat. Sasha, Vanity, Deception, Aura Mayari, Corlis Todd, and Carmin Triple C)
Counting down to the epic celebration, Daisha shares, “I never thought I’d have the opportunity to perform in so many of Nashville’s top spots all in the same night. Fans can expect a lot of bops and high energy. I want people to dance and have a good time.”
Ward Guenther, Whiskey Jam Founder, adds, “Red Bull has been enjoyed at Whiskey Jam since the very first night, so it's only fitting Whiskey Jam is enjoyed at Nashville's first Red Bull Unlocked. Looking forward to this!”
Red Bull Unlocked Istanbul
Photo courtesy of Red Bull
Local favorites including Pearl Diver, Tin Roof, Lipstick Lounge, White Limozeen, and more will join forces for one epic night. Full list of bars and partners below:
- The Dive Motel
- Lipstick Lounge
- Pearl Diver
- Play Dance Bar
- Rosemary & Beauty Queen
- The Stage
- Tin Roof
- Whiskey Jam
- White Limozeen
- Woolworth Theatre – Opening Fall 2022!
- Eleven Eleven - Opening 2023!
Date: August 21, 2022
Time: 6 PM – 11PM CT
Location: 1102 Forrest Ave, Nashville, TN 37206
Entrance: Ticked event
Rumble Boxing, the boxing-inspired group fitness studio, opened its doors for the first time in Nashville on June 20 at 609 Overton St, Nashville, TN. The hottest workout on the block is hosting its official grand opening from August 4th-7th with daily classes, membership specials, and prizes from local vendors. The new Rumble Boxing studio is currently offering a buy one class, get one free promotion for the Nashville community.
Rumble Boxing delivers 45-minute, 10-round, strength and conditioning group workouts, crafted around teardrop-style aqua boxing bags and high-intensity strength training circuits. This brings all fitness levels together to experience what Rumble is known for: combining the sweet science of boxing with high energy and positive vibes.
Rumble Boxing Fitness Studio
Photo courtesy of Rumble Boxing Gulch Nashville
This boutique fitness brand offers serious benefits like increased stamina and strength, with cardio that’s actually fun. The seasoned trainers at the new studio are thrilled to serve their local community while offering this fun, new modern approach to boxing and welcome members of all fitness levels to the Rumble family.
The new Rumble Boxing studio is owned and operated by Blake Baskin and Antonio Compton. With their background in the fitness industry, this dynamic duo is excited to bring their passion for boxing and group fitness to Nashville. As business and life partners, Blake and Antonio aim to create a strong community within their new Rumble Boxing studio and share their message of non-apologetic inclusivity.
Black and Gay-Owned Business
Rumble Boxing Store with Dolly Parton Mural
Photo courtesy of Rumble Boxing Gulch Nashville
“We own who we are, and this brand aligns with that perfectly,” said Antonio. “This is what we want to create and bring to this community: a fitness class that is designed for anyone and a place for people to be who they are. As a Black and gay-owned business, we want to help lower the division we see in the world right now. Our goal is to bring people together through Rumble, set everything aside, and have fun.”
To echo their message of acceptance and inclusion, Blake and Antonio commissioned a local Nashville artist to paint an 11 X 6-ft. mural of Nashville icon and philanthropist, Dolly Parton. The massive portrait features the country star in Rumble Boxing gear in the lobby of the studio.
The excitement and buzz around Rumble allowed Blake and Antonio to recruit top-tier trainers to head up the new studio, including Head Trainer Oronde Jones, a well-known celebrity trainer in the Nashville market.
Rumble Boxing Fitness Studio
Photo courtesy of Rumble Boxing Gulch Nashville
“Compared to other fitness classes, Rumble is a class you can truly get lost in for 45 minutes. With the dark room, you don’t have to worry if anyone is paying attention to you. The music is awesome and inspiring, and the beat drops right when you need it the most. Also, with boxing being a sport you can never truly master, you’re always improving and crafting your skill. On the floor, you’re consistently doing something new, which prevents you from ever hitting a plateau.” Said Oronde Jones about his favorite part of Rumble.
Rumble has massive brand loyalty and widespread appeal, partly thanks to attracting top names like Justin Bieber, Selena Gomez, Kendall Jenner, Hailey Baldwin, Jason Derulo, David Beckham, and Kevin Hart to its studios.
About Rumble Boxing
Founded in New York City in 2017, Rumble is a group fitness concept delivering a mix (or combination) of boxing-inspired circuits and the transformative power of resistance training. Pro and amateur fighters glove up together, no matter their fitness level or skill, to reveal their inner fighter. The experience is a 45-minute, 10-round, full-body cardio and strength workout crafted around specially designed water-filled, teardrop-style boxing bags. Rumble was founded by Noah Neiman (former Barry’s Bootcamp Master Trainer, and cast member of Bravo’s Work Out New York), Eugene Remm (Co-Founder of Catch Hospitality Group (Catch Restaurants, CATCH STEAK, Lexington Brass), Andy Stenzler (Co-Founder Cosí, Kidville), and Anthony DiMarco (13-time IRONMAN, former Managing Director, Google).
Who would have thought that we would have to get through a pandemic in order to appreciate the small things we have, such as the ability to simply pack our bags and hit the road?
For two years, there’s been nothing left for us travel junkies to do but sit at home and try to find new destinations that we will conquer once we defeat what appears to be the biggest villain of the 21st century. But once that happens, hold your bags tight because we will be up for some of the most interesting travel experiences. Take a look at some ideas for your post-COVID traveling plans:
A Gay Cruise
One of the best options to have in mind when all of this passes is a good, nice and long (pun intended) gay cruise. Or cruise in general, for that matter. Bear in mind, social distancing will still be a thing in the post-COVID world. But COVID-19 likely doesn’t mean that cruises will cease to exist. On the contrary, though cruise ships will probably keep the number of passengers smaller than before, it is believed that they will become an even bigger hit in the following period, especially because they are all going to go a lot more environmentally-friendly. On the bright side, is there any better way of celebrating the end of the pandemic than by cruising around some magnificent seas, stopping by at great cities and having romantic dinner nights at nice restaurants?
A getaway in nature
On the other hand, there is always the option of stepping away from the hustle and bustle of large cities, and spending some time in a place that’s not only healthy, but also beautiful. Some of the destinations that plenty of people will look for are the ones that can cater for both peace of mind and amazing things to see or do. One such destination is New Zealand, one of the greenest countries on Earth right now. Not only will you be visiting the magnificent country that gave us the beautiful Shire from Lord of the Rings; this is also a destination that’s excellent for everyone who prefers relaxing to partying. If you’re up for some partying, you will be able to hit Auckland, while if you’re for something calmer, there’s plenty of amazing places that you can see and visit.
Dancing Around at Pride
Pride parades are also events that you want to have in mind for the post-COVID world. Such events have always been quite important, but it seems that they are now more important than ever. The virus has canceled more than 75 Pride parades all around the world, which is one of the reasons why we must support the ones that will see the light of day once the pandemic stops. Truth be told, the upcoming Prides will perhaps be the best Prides ever organized. Give the gays a couple of weeks of quarantine, then let them outside and see what kind of party they are able to throw!
A road trip
If you’re, as well, waiting for the day to wake up and say “long gone are the days when we were not allowed to go wherever we wanted?”, and if staying at one place gave you a lot to think about, then your first post-COVID travel experience should definitely be a nice road trip. You can practically choose which country you want to tour, and you can either take your own car (you have probably missed it so much), or rent one at your destination. Australia is an amazing country for this, though, as it offers the possibility of seeing the Great Ocean Road, which is an amazing thing to see and experience. On the other hand, if you do not want or cannot leave your country, you can also choose to go on a domestic road trip – there are amazing things to see in your vicinity as well.
Holiday for a single guy
If you’re single, or you’re traveling someplace with another single friend, then you should definitely organize a nice vacation for yourself or for you and your single friend, and hit one of the best European cities. Europe has been greatly affected by the virus, which means that now it’s time to pay it back and get it back on its feet by traveling there and seeing all the amazing things it offers. Any city you choose in Europe – you will not make a mistake. Apart from being able to see great landmarks, you will also have the chance to have a drink at great gay clubs and pubs, and join unforgettable gay parties. And if the gay scenery is not your forte, worry not, as Europe indeed has to offer so many different and magnificent things.