Well, it’s time to get back to a more regimented schedule. This means school, football, and the end of pool season. This month, I was happy to be able to interview the very busy Melissa Todhunter, a program coordinator for Brookdale Senior Living in Overland Park. She and I go way back -- all the way to the days when she was my English composition student. Thanks to social media, I have had the honor of watching her graduate and establish herself in her career. I also know that she is engaged and planning a wedding. As avid animal lovers, she and her partner, Cecily, have four dogs AND foster on top of that! I am very proud to know this young woman.
1. Now, as a program coordinator for Brookdale Senior Living, what do you actually do?
I plan and implement a variety of activities for residents living with Alzheimer’s and various forms of dementia. These programs include chair yoga, sensory-based programming for those with advanced dementia/Alzheimer’s, shopping trips, restaurant outings, scenic drives, trips to the zoo, and museums around KC, Powell Gardens and many more attractions in the area. My focus is on letting them live their lives as fully as they are currently able to. I also supervise associates, provide continuing education/dementia training for associates, and organize fundraising events for the Alzheimer’s Association.
2. What is the favorite part of your job?
Watching my residents learn new things like yoga. And listening to the stories they share about their lives.
3. How did you become interested in working with the elderly?
A. When I was 16, I got a job doing laundry at a nursing home, and I loved seeing the residents. I became interested in moving up, so I became a certified nursing assistant and began working with them full time. I later became a certified medication aide, and then got my Kansas Activities Director certification, and here I am.
4. How can people in the community reach out to the growing number of LGBT elderly?
Good question. I have only come across a handful of elderly people who were “out” and comfortable sharing that part of their lives. There is such a cloak of secrecy for many in the older population. I hope that people would just be as respectful of those people and their relationships as they are of their heterosexual counterparts. If you create an atmosphere of open communication and respect, it will be much easier to help older LGBT people through the aging process.
5. You also have a great love for animals, and I know that you are very passionate about the KC Pet Project! How many animals are you currently fostering?
Ha! Yeah, that’s about all I talk about. I have always loved animals. I am finally able to devote some of my time helping animals in need (instead of just working all the time), and it’s very fulfilling. Volunteering at Pet Project has opened my eyes! I had no idea the number of animals that come through the shelter system! It was mind-blowing for me. I have learned a lot, and even on the days when I’m covered in scratches and dog poop, I always go home feeling like I made a difference to some little fur face that day. I went a little foster-crazy and at one time was fostering a grumpy Wheaton terrier and six little kittens. I now have two kittens (the other four found forever homes, yay!) and a grumpy old man Corgi mix that comes to work with me
6. Why should people consider fostering animals?
It saves lives. It’s really that simple. When someone chooses to foster an animal, they are removing them from the stress of the shelter environment, providing them with love and socialization, and increasing their chances of finding their forever homes. Fostering also opens up another space in the shelter for an animal that needs to be helped. Pets who receive foster care are also networked through many forms of social media, which also increases their chances of being adopted.
7. You are also planning a wedding! Congratulations! How did you propose to your fiancée, Cecily?
Thank you! We had been talking about doing a scavenger hunt for a long time, so I created one that we were going to do on the Plaza. She and I are fairly competitive sometimes, so we got some other friends involved and split into teams to complete the list. Little did she know that I had other friends waiting for me at the fountain that she loves. I made these big poster board signs that listed something about her that I loved. Everyone had one to hold, and I had one that was said “Will you marry me?” The plan was for everyone to line up, and as my friend Diane walked her over to the right spot, each person would show her their sign and then move to the end of the line. Then I would be there, with the ring, etc. Of course, that didn’t happen. It was a comedy of errors, but it was totally “us.” Diane forgot to let me know they were almost to the fountain. Then she walked her around the wrong side, and we had to rearrange the entire line so it was a chaotic scramble. And to top it all off, I forgot the ring!! It took Cec a minute to even figure out what was happening. She thought that I had gotten distracted and joined some kind of protest!
8. What has been the biggest challenge in planning the wedding, and what has been the most fun?
The biggest challenge in planning the wedding has been figuring out where, when, and how we can get legally married. It would have been a million times easier to just be able to go to the courthouse in Kansas City, do the paperwork, get the license and have the wedding. Unfortunately, to be legally married, we will be taking time off work, driving a few hours, renting a hotel, etc., to have a piece of paper documenting our commitment. We are helping with the Show Me Marriage campaign to push for marriage equality in Missouri. We are hopeful. The most fun part of planning has been … hmmm … well, nothing! Hopefully the most fun will be the actual wedding.
9. At the end of the day, how do you unwind?
It really depends on my mood and how wacky the day was. Unwinding for me could look like a long walk, a glass of wine, cooking, cleaning, taking my fur babies to the dog park, yoga, or binge-watching something on Netflix.
10. OK, I always like to end with a fun question, so if you were a dog, what kind would you be? What about Cecily?
Oh my, what a hard question! If I were a dog, I think that I would be a Chihuahua, just like my little Asia. She is so cute and sweet, but also nosy and bossy. Always trying to make sure everyone is doing things her way. If Cec were a dog, I think that she would be a collie or some kind of herding dog. She is also bossy, but in a more gentle way.
WhistlePig and Alfa Romeo F1 Team Stake Wind Tunnel-Trialed Whiskey Is a Ryed You Don’t Want to Miss
SHOREHAM, VT (September 13, 2023) — WhistlePig Whiskey, the leaders in independent craft whiskey, and Alfa Romeo F1 Team Stake are waving the checkered flag on a legend-worthy release that’s taking whiskey to G-Force levels. The Limited Edition PiggyBack Legends Series: Alfa Romeo F1 Team Stake Barrel is a high Rye Whiskey selected by the Alfa Romeo F1 Team Stake drivers, with barrels trialed in their wind tunnel to ensure a thrilling taste in every sip.
The third iteration in WhistlePig’s Single Barrel PiggyBack Legends Series, the Alfa Romeo F1 Team Stake Barrel is bottled at 96.77 proof, a nod to Valtteri Bottas’ racing number, 77, and the precision of racing. Inspired by Zhou Guanyu, the first Chinese F1 driver, this Rye Whiskey is finished with lychee and oolong tea. Herbal and floral notes of the oolong tea complement the herbaceous notes of WhistlePig’s signature PiggyBack 100% Rye, rounded out with a juicy tropical fruit finish and a touch of spice.
Like Alfa Romeo F1 Team Stake’s signature C43 racing vehicles, trial barrels were tested in the team’s wind tunnel in Switzerland before hitting the track. Select barrels then endured varying levels of G-Forces at the WhistlePig farm and distillery for the finishing touch, accelerating the interaction between the whiskey and the wood, staying true to the physical nature of Formula 1.
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The Limited Edition Alfa Romeo F1 Team Stake Barrel will be available for purchase online starting around September 13 for $49.99 MSRP per 750ml bottle and sold in select stores across the U.S. Consumers can win VIP merchandise by scanning the QR code on the back of each bottle.
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Fans and collectors have followed WhistlePig PiggyBack Legends Series, celebrating those who give 100% in the name of greatness, since its launch in March 2022 with Major League Baseball Hall of Famer, David Ortiz (“Big Papi”), followed by Country Music Duo Brothers Osborne in November 2022.
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Located off the grid on a 500-acre Vermont farm, WhistlePig Whiskey is crafted by a new generation of whiskey distillers and blenders driven to reinvent and unlock the flavor of Rye whiskey. Through their rebellious pursuit of experimenting and pushing boundaries in the industry, WhistlePig has become the leading independent craft whiskey brand for innovation. WhistlePig is committed to becoming the best whiskey on and for the planet, starting with its locally sourced ingredients and sustainable supply chain and distilling process. For more information, head to whistlepigwhiskey.com.
When I started medical transition at 20 years old, it was very difficult to get the care I needed for hormone replacement therapy because there are very few providers trained in starting hormones for trans people, even though it’s very similar to the hormones that we prescribe to women in menopause or cisgender men with low testosterone.
I hope more providers get trained in LGBTQ+ healthcare, so they can support patients along their individual gender journey, and provide the info needed to make informed decisions about their body. I’ve personally seen my trans patients find hope and experience a better quality of life through hormone replacement therapy.
If you don’t have a primary care physician who specializes in LGBTQ+ care in your community, you may need to educate yourself (and your provider). But, before you seek such therapy, here are five things you should know!
- Monitor closely. At Spectrum Medical Care Center, we screen patients for certain risks before starting anyone on hormones. We frequently monitor patients in the first year to ensure there are no adverse reactions and lab results are within safe ranges. Follow-up care is also important to assess your comfort with the transition as well as the social impact and social support you’re experiencing.
- Some changes are permanent, some temporary. For transmasculine individuals going on testosterone, they’ll experience these permanent changes: deepened voice, clitoral enlargement (also known as bottom growth), more body, facial hair, and male pattern baldness. Reversible changes include cessation of menses, increased muscle mass and strength, body fat redistribution, and skin oiliness or acne. For those going on estrogen therapy, the most permanent change is breast growth. Feminizing hormone therapy can also cause atrophy (shrinkage) of the genitals and loss of erectile function that may not be reversible. Estrogen will thin body hair, soften the skin, can increase scalp hair, and decrease muscle mass and strength, all of which are reversible.
- You can’t pick and choose results. Unfortunately, you can’t pick and choose the physical changes you want, which may feel challenging. Some of my patients will say, ‘Okay, ‘I’ve seen the permanent changes I want, and I don’t want it to go any further,’ and so at that point, we stop therapy. Low-dose hormone therapy can slow down the rate of changes, allowing for a more gradual physical transition. We counsel patients in advance about the common changes, and it’s up to the individual as to when they’d like to scale back and determine whether some benefits are worth the potential risks.
- Be aware of risks. Like any medical treatment, there are potential risks involved. Some risks with testosterone therapy include increased red blood cell mass, acne, hypertension, sleep apnea, weight gain, and dyslipidemia (increases the chance of clogged arteries). Cardiovascular disease is likely increased with additional risk factors for testosterone and estrogen therapy. Transfeminine patients going on estrogen therapy may experience weight gain, thromboembolic disease (when a blood clot breaks off and blocks another blood vessel), and a high level of triglycerides in the blood.
Descanso Resort, Palm Springs' premier destination for gay men, just received Tripadvisor's highest honor, a Travelers' Choice "Best of the Best" award for 2023. Based on guests' reviews and ratings, fewer than 1% of Tripadvisor's 8 million listings around the world receive the coveted "Best of the Best" designation. Descanso ranked 12th in the top 25 small inns and hotels category in the United States. Quite an accomplishment!
Open less than two years, Descanso Resort offers gay men a relaxing and luxurious boutique hotel experience just minutes away from Palm Springs' buzziest restaurants, nightclubs, and shopping. Descanso has quickly established itself as a top destination for sophisticated gay travelers, earning hundreds of 5-star guest reviews and consistently ranking in Trapadvisor's top positions alongside brother properties Santiago Resort and Twin Palms Resort.
"Our entire team is honored to be named Best of the Best. To be the only gay men's resort recognized in the Top 1% is incredibly humbling," said Kent Taylor, General Manager at Descanso. "We appreciate Tripadvisor and we're grateful to all our guests who gave us such high marks and reviews to help us reach this achievement."
“Ranking among the Best of the Best demonstrates that you have provided exemplary experiences to those who maZer most: your guests,” said John Boris, Chief Growth Officer at Tripadvisor. “With changing expectations, continued labor shortages, and rising costs, this is no easy feat, and I am con6nually impressed with the hospitality industry’s resilience and ability to adapt.”
Santiago Resort was once again honored by Tripadvisor with a 2023 Travelers’ Choice award, placing it among the top 10% of travelers’ top reviewed des6na6ons. Twin Palms will become eligible for ranking in 2024.
Check out all the reviews, and discover more about Descanso Resort on Tripadvisor here. We have an excellent library of resort imagery available to accompany editorial and additional resources on our press page. Please contact Descanso Resort’s General Manager, Kent Taylor, at kent@descansoresort.com for further information.
About Descanso Resort
Inspired by Palm Springs’ history as a des6na6on for Hollywood stars to unwind in privacy, Descanso offers guests a casual yet modern take on the legendary style of that 6me. Created by the same hospitality team that revitalized Palm Springs’ much-loved San6ago Resort and recently launched the all-new Twin Palms Resort, the Descanso property opened in 2022 featuring 15 spacious guest rooms with custom-designed furniture, dreamy King-size beds, and luxe details. Ameni6es include continental breakfast, poolside lunch, welcome snack basket, and lots of special touches. For guests who need to stay connected, the entire property is equipped with blazing-fast Wi-Fi. Mul6-speed bikes are available for exploring the surrounding midcentury neighborhoods and public art installations. Like the Hollywood stars before them, guests at Descanso are encouraged to unwind, relax, and rest in style.
About Tripadvisor
Travelers across the globe use the Tripadvisor site and app to discover where to stay, what to do and where to eat based on guidance from those who have been there before. With more than 1 billion reviews and opinions of nearly 8 million businesses, travelers turn to Tripadvisor to find deals on accommodations, book experiences, reserve tables at delicious restaurants and discover great places nearby.