Are you a gay man stressed out of his mind just looking for a way to relieve stress, anxiety and all other negative feelings? Well, there are many ways to relieve stress, but the healthiest one is to dive into your hobby. If you don’t have a hobby (and no, sipping margaritas at brunch is not a hobby) here are a few of them perfect for gay guys no matter their preference, artistic inclinations or fitness level. 

Photography

You might be an expert to snap a perfect nude or a selfie of your outfit of the day, but do you really know anything about photography? If you think you have an eye to notice good composition and recognize beauty in things, you can invest in a camera that’s not your iPhone’s and go hunting for photo ops. Signing up for online photography courses is also a great idea that will get you started on the basics, teach you a few photography tricks and show you how to get the most out of your gear. Plus, you’ll get to take much better photos of yourself for Instagram or Grindr. 

Drawing and painting

All experts agree that creating art is a great way to de-stress. You can paint the sunset after work, let your deepest desires come to the surface and even try your hand at some artful nudes. Your partner can model if you want to turn this into a couple’s hobby. 

Sewing

Never have anything to wear? Why not try making something new for yourself? This creative hobby is suitable for all fashion gays who love to look unique. Plus, getting immersed into all the patterns, materials and fits will definitely give you time to relax and unwind. Soon you’ll be grounded while also dripping in style. 

Drag

Sure, not all gays are into drag and makeup, but no matter if you’re a huge fan of RuPaul’s Drag Race or can’t stand the drama of the show, transforming into fierce queen can do wonders for your anxiety and stress. Drag is a lifestyle for many, but it can also be a great way to let loose and have many laughs. And the process of putting on makeup, hair and clothes is therapeutic in itself. 

Gardening

Join thousands of plant gays all over the world and consider becoming a plant dad. Gardening will not only turn your place into an aesthetic oasis but also allow you to relax, have a sense of purpose and enjoy many small victories as you watch your leafy babies thrive. Plus, you can have a bunch of fresh produce to add to your diet. 

Cooking

Stop relying on takeout and actually use that pretty kitchen of yours. Cooking is a great way to feed your body, take better care of your fitness and save money. Plus, it’s one of the most relaxing, rewarding and delicious hobbies out there. And everyone loves a man who can cook! 

Archery

Channel your inner Katniss and try your hand at archery. This hobby with a long history is an intersection of focus, exercise (it packs a great shoulder and back workout) and relaxation. As long as you practice it responsibly, you will get all the benefits and look more than sexy with a bow.  

Rock climbing

If you’re looking for a hobby that will keep you snatched, active and excited, look no further than rock climbing. This hobby requires focus, brain power and a lot of strength, all of which you can practice during your climbing sessions. If you’re not afraid of hard work and heights, climbing will use up all your built-up energy and allow you to feel relaxed and fulfilled. 

Cycling 

Is there anything more relaxing than cruising through nature, watching the hills and pastures pass you by and enjoying the wind in your hair? You can get all of that on your bike. Cycling is healthy, relaxing and suitable for all fitness levels. Plus you can do it with your partner or use it as an excuse to hang out with new people as you work towards those chiseled legs. 

Any stressed gay will love these hobbies, especially since they don’t require a ton of money or time. Whenever you feel overwhelmed by monotony or sick of hanging out in your local bar, do something new and healthy and relieve stress while improving yourself. 

This article has been republished from Out & About Nashville, and was part of a series of first-person pieces written by the late Bobbi Williams.

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