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'Shame On You' is the fastest growing gay podcast in the world. It
received just 200 downloads during its first week (March 2019) but grew to nearly half a million in just six months. To date, 'Shame On You' has been listened to in over 60 countries. The podcast airs new episode every Thursday on all streaming platforms.
'Shame On You; is co-‐hosted by Jordan Power and his best friend Brad Price, who were both taught to feel shame about being gay their whole lives. Then at 32 years old, after a few too many drinks, they had a new thought. Imagine if they were invincible to shame, not just about being gay, but in general. 'Shame On You' is all about sparking a revolt against society’s norms with guests that include ex-boyfriends, gay men, and others plagued by messages of shame.
Everything is on the table in this podcast, including raunchy details from their sex lives, two breakups in real time, and an episode recorded naked with a man the hosts both hooked up with. Jordan and Brad bring unbridled chatter, raw honesty and radical self-‐disclosure.
Past celebrity guests have included international motivational speaker Spencer West (who has opened for Demi Lovato), the first and only out professional hockey player Brock McGillis, and Fan590 host Scott Macarthur, among others.
“This podcast is an antidote to the thousands of messages gay people have received their entire lives that they are unlovable or deficient. There has never been anything wrong with any of us, in the past or now” said co-host Brad Price. “We are so proud of what we have accomplished with 'Shame On You' so far and we are excited to keep going and take it to the next level. Along the way, we hope to continue to inspire others to unapologetically be themselves with zero shame.”
Co-host Jordan Price recently discussed with us how the podcast came about and why it's so important to combat shame in the LGBT community. Some of what he has to say is controversial, so stay tuned!
How did you come up with the concept of 'Shame on You'?
The podcast was catalyzed from two events in my life.
First, I was in an incredibly toxic relationship with a closeted man named Eli that filled me with such anger when it ceased. When the hatred passed I decided to get to work creating a world in which there were less Elis.
Second, it forced me to go on a journey of self-exploration with my best friend Brad. Why were we both settling for crappy men? Were we still shackled by messages that we were unlovable from our youth? Is that why I would continue to fight for a person who bailed on Christmas with my family?
Jordan Power & Brad Price, co-hosts of 'Shame on You'
Eli’s demons were his but staying with him through utter madness were my issues. We both realized we weren’t as comfortable with ourselves as we thought we were.
How do you feel that shame has impacted LGBT people, and why is abandoning shame so important?
It starts the second a baby a born. The family often assumes the baby is heterosexual and starts to push gender roles on them. The boy’s crib wall is blue, and he is going to “break a lot of girls hearts some day.”
Then, the “baby” grows and fails to see itself represented in the world, and we know that you can’t be what you can’t see. Next, you develop an elevated trauma response. Am I safe? Do I fit in? Who is a threat? Mental health issues can then ensue.
With our ancestors, if you weren’t included in the tribe it meant you could be left alone to die and handle the elements on your own. This is deeply ingrained in us and corrosive.
On my end it was reinforced for decades at a time when my brain was wiring. As a gay person, the sooner you can start to change your neuropathways the better. Many LGBT people are made to feel guilty for being who they are. For being sexual. For wanting love.
Abandoning shame empowers us to feel worthy and lessens feeling of unrelenting anxiety.
How did you target shame? Were there techniques you felt were particularly helpful?
The first step is identifying it. You need to be able to discern the difference between a normal reaction and a reaction stemming from decades of negative conditioning. Is that really my boyfriend’s fault or am I modeling some sort of unresolved trauma?
What we’ve done is quite extreme and very ballsy but it’s the ultimate antidote to the messaging out there. We get on a microphone and explore the darkest corners of our sexuality with brutal honesty.
We interviewed one night stands, ex-boyfriends and even ex-girlfriends. We’ve done psychedelics live. We talk about plastic surgery and other taboo subjects you’re supposed to stay silent about but we don’t care. It’s a journey of self-exploration.
We also attack shame with comedy and a level of self-deprecation. Self-deprecation can be helpful as it allows you not to take yourself so seriously, but you have to watch that it doesn’t become this assault on yourself.
The reason our podcast has been successful is because, when we take a mile, it inspires listeners to maybe take a foot in their own life. You have to move your “line” as much as you can.
What are some of the areas of shame specifically related to LGBT identity that most trouble our community?
Some of the sexual judgement lingers pretty hard. Bottoms are still painted as feminine and thus lower on the social hierarchy within the community. I even catch my friends in their 40s still doing it.
Some of our guests have noted that they’re shamed for their race. People will state on their dating profiles that they’re only into a certain type of man. That one is pretty perplexing to me. Perhaps you haven’t dated an Asian man in the past, but how could you possibly know you wouldn’t in the future? It’s very close minded. I think preferences are real but shutting out the possibility of experiences is pretty nuts.
Body shaming is another one, and it’s one we’ve been criticized for on the podcast. I think some of the criticism is warranted. It’s probably from our own issues with our bodies, but it’s also notable that of the 61 countries our podcast is listened to in, we only get that criticism from America.
I stand by my comments. My largest problem with the body positivity movement is that it ignores the fact that you can be beautiful as well as unhealthy. People have become slaves to food just as they have become slaves to alcohol, drugs or other vices. But I do think that’s your own business, unless you are attempting to influence young minds with messages of “self-love” while simultaneously engaging in self destruction like some are. I’m not going to follow the sheep on that one.
It’s also important to note that shame has its place. We call out a lot of toxic behavior in the gay community. It’s not a free for all for people to act in unhealthy ways and then claim they’re being “shamed” for it.
What are some general areas of shame not specific to LGBT people that also get in the way of LGBT people's personal growth?
I think I answered that earlier but it’s important to remember shame lives in secrets. It’s a fear of disconnection from society. Fight it by living as openly as possible in all aspects of your life, not just your sexuality.
One of the biggest messages I try to push is finding a way to build confidence and self-esteem. Self-esteem comes from setting goals and overcoming them. Start slow and grow from there. If you don’t like something about yourself, you only have two options, change it or, if you can’t, change your attitude.
So much of the younger generation want to live a life free from conflict or dissent. That’s not life, and it’s no way to understand others. I like to listen to podcasts that are outside of my comfort zone or from conservative voices. It’s made me a freer thinker. Those people aren’t going away, so you should try to understand them.
Tell us about some of your most impactful moments with guests?
We’ve had hundreds of people come out, exit toxic relationships and go on PREP because of the podcast, which is wildly rewarding.
I like talking to my exes and seeing how I’ve grown or haven’t grown. Different vantage points are key and stepping outside yourself.
One of the most memorable moments was when a priest came out because of the podcast. I read his email six times in disbelief.
How has fan input impacted the direction of the show?
The podcast is very much a group effort. We read emails from fans, have sold out live shows, and seek to bring on guests that are just normal people and not social media influencers.
I try to ask fans what they like and what they don’t, but it tends to get you nowhere because at the end of the day people tune in for different reasons. Some like the empowerment psych talk, some like the comedy, some like a bit of everything.
From a content perspective we just want to keep it well rounded, but I will say we will always prioritize comedy, as that has allowed us to expand our audience to straight men and women which is great. They’re learning empathy and understanding the struggle we’re still up against.
Are there related plans for the future you can share?
We’re going on a four-city tour starting in April after selling out some shows in major cities.
I’m releasing a mini-book on March 31st called Famous Anus, which includes 8 wild stories from my 20s, like sleeping with my boss, accidentally making out with my step brother, trying LSD and more. Writing is what is sacred to me, though I do enjoy the podcast a great deal. If you follow my Instagram @jpowercomedy I’ll have the pre-order link on there.
Do you feel like the community at large is ready for the message? Do you feel some groups or locales resonate with it better and why?
It’s an edgy podcast, and it’s very polarizing, but I think that’s a good thing. When it comes to the entertainment business, you can play it safe but you will become forgettable very quickly. We have a specific type of listener, which is one who isn’t as easily offended as most and who has the maturity to disagree with what we are saying but not go off on a 5 page rant about why we’re awful human beings.
I think when you’re in a marginalized community you can become very sensitive to threats over time. I have started to develop empathy for those people thinking “wow my one joke in 60 hours of audio made them write horrible things about me online. They have some work to do.” I get it but I also don’t. I’ve gone through immeasurable trauma in my life but I usually handle it differently. I laugh at everything and mostly myself. I’m not sure if I’d even be alive if it wasn’t for comedy.
At the end of the day the entertainment business is just about casting a net. Over time you’ll find your base of people and lose others. It takes time. At this point I can tell who won’t like me, and it’s usually someone who can’t handle the truth. I’ll still fight for them and our cause in my own way though. We’re still on the same team.
For those with a thirst to celebrate, Red Bull Unlocked is the key. In city after city, the most exciting bars, clubs, mixologists, performing artists, and more take over a local landmark building to showcase their signature ambiance while also collaborating for a must-see mashup. And now it's Music City’s turn to seize the spotlight, as the event brings 10 bars together in East Nashville’s Five Points neighborhood.
Fueled by the best of Nashville’s thriving music scene, Red Bull Unlocked has curated an eclectic night of show-stopping entertainment performances including a pop-up Whiskey Jam show, DJ sets, musicians, and more. The full lineup is here:
- Whiskey Jam (feat. Dozzi, Willie Shaw, and Johnny Hayes)
- A.B. Eastwood
- Daisha / Rap Girl
- Boom Bap (DJ Collective feat. DJ-Rate, Case Bloom)
- Whiskey Disco (DJ Collective feat. Coach, Jim O'Shea)
- Old Crow Medicine Show’s Jerry Pentercost (DJ Set)
- DJ Stretch
- DJ Griffin Green
- The Play Mates (Drag Show feat. Sasha, Vanity, Deception, Aura Mayari, Corlis Todd, and Carmin Triple C)
Counting down to the epic celebration, Daisha shares, “I never thought I’d have the opportunity to perform in so many of Nashville’s top spots all in the same night. Fans can expect a lot of bops and high energy. I want people to dance and have a good time.”
Ward Guenther, Whiskey Jam Founder, adds, “Red Bull has been enjoyed at Whiskey Jam since the very first night, so it's only fitting Whiskey Jam is enjoyed at Nashville's first Red Bull Unlocked. Looking forward to this!”
Red Bull Unlocked Istanbul
Photo courtesy of Red Bull
Local favorites including Pearl Diver, Tin Roof, Lipstick Lounge, White Limozeen, and more will join forces for one epic night. Full list of bars and partners below:
- The Dive Motel
- Lipstick Lounge
- Pearl Diver
- Play Dance Bar
- Rosemary & Beauty Queen
- The Stage
- Tin Roof
- Whiskey Jam
- White Limozeen
- Woolworth Theatre – Opening Fall 2022!
- Eleven Eleven - Opening 2023!
Date: August 21, 2022
Time: 6 PM – 11PM CT
Location: 1102 Forrest Ave, Nashville, TN 37206
Entrance: Ticked event
Rumble Boxing, the boxing-inspired group fitness studio, opened its doors for the first time in Nashville on June 20 at 609 Overton St, Nashville, TN. The hottest workout on the block is hosting its official grand opening from August 4th-7th with daily classes, membership specials, and prizes from local vendors. The new Rumble Boxing studio is currently offering a buy one class, get one free promotion for the Nashville community.
Rumble Boxing delivers 45-minute, 10-round, strength and conditioning group workouts, crafted around teardrop-style aqua boxing bags and high-intensity strength training circuits. This brings all fitness levels together to experience what Rumble is known for: combining the sweet science of boxing with high energy and positive vibes.
Rumble Boxing Fitness Studio
Photo courtesy of Rumble Boxing Gulch Nashville
This boutique fitness brand offers serious benefits like increased stamina and strength, with cardio that’s actually fun. The seasoned trainers at the new studio are thrilled to serve their local community while offering this fun, new modern approach to boxing and welcome members of all fitness levels to the Rumble family.
The new Rumble Boxing studio is owned and operated by Blake Baskin and Antonio Compton. With their background in the fitness industry, this dynamic duo is excited to bring their passion for boxing and group fitness to Nashville. As business and life partners, Blake and Antonio aim to create a strong community within their new Rumble Boxing studio and share their message of non-apologetic inclusivity.
Black and Gay-Owned Business
Rumble Boxing Store with Dolly Parton Mural
Photo courtesy of Rumble Boxing Gulch Nashville
“We own who we are, and this brand aligns with that perfectly,” said Antonio. “This is what we want to create and bring to this community: a fitness class that is designed for anyone and a place for people to be who they are. As a Black and gay-owned business, we want to help lower the division we see in the world right now. Our goal is to bring people together through Rumble, set everything aside, and have fun.”
To echo their message of acceptance and inclusion, Blake and Antonio commissioned a local Nashville artist to paint an 11 X 6-ft. mural of Nashville icon and philanthropist, Dolly Parton. The massive portrait features the country star in Rumble Boxing gear in the lobby of the studio.
The excitement and buzz around Rumble allowed Blake and Antonio to recruit top-tier trainers to head up the new studio, including Head Trainer Oronde Jones, a well-known celebrity trainer in the Nashville market.
Rumble Boxing Fitness Studio
Photo courtesy of Rumble Boxing Gulch Nashville
“Compared to other fitness classes, Rumble is a class you can truly get lost in for 45 minutes. With the dark room, you don’t have to worry if anyone is paying attention to you. The music is awesome and inspiring, and the beat drops right when you need it the most. Also, with boxing being a sport you can never truly master, you’re always improving and crafting your skill. On the floor, you’re consistently doing something new, which prevents you from ever hitting a plateau.” Said Oronde Jones about his favorite part of Rumble.
Rumble has massive brand loyalty and widespread appeal, partly thanks to attracting top names like Justin Bieber, Selena Gomez, Kendall Jenner, Hailey Baldwin, Jason Derulo, David Beckham, and Kevin Hart to its studios.
About Rumble Boxing
Founded in New York City in 2017, Rumble is a group fitness concept delivering a mix (or combination) of boxing-inspired circuits and the transformative power of resistance training. Pro and amateur fighters glove up together, no matter their fitness level or skill, to reveal their inner fighter. The experience is a 45-minute, 10-round, full-body cardio and strength workout crafted around specially designed water-filled, teardrop-style boxing bags. Rumble was founded by Noah Neiman (former Barry’s Bootcamp Master Trainer, and cast member of Bravo’s Work Out New York), Eugene Remm (Co-Founder of Catch Hospitality Group (Catch Restaurants, CATCH STEAK, Lexington Brass), Andy Stenzler (Co-Founder Cosí, Kidville), and Anthony DiMarco (13-time IRONMAN, former Managing Director, Google).
Who would have thought that we would have to get through a pandemic in order to appreciate the small things we have, such as the ability to simply pack our bags and hit the road?
For two years, there’s been nothing left for us travel junkies to do but sit at home and try to find new destinations that we will conquer once we defeat what appears to be the biggest villain of the 21st century. But once that happens, hold your bags tight because we will be up for some of the most interesting travel experiences. Take a look at some ideas for your post-COVID traveling plans:
A Gay Cruise
One of the best options to have in mind when all of this passes is a good, nice and long (pun intended) gay cruise. Or cruise in general, for that matter. Bear in mind, social distancing will still be a thing in the post-COVID world. But COVID-19 likely doesn’t mean that cruises will cease to exist. On the contrary, though cruise ships will probably keep the number of passengers smaller than before, it is believed that they will become an even bigger hit in the following period, especially because they are all going to go a lot more environmentally-friendly. On the bright side, is there any better way of celebrating the end of the pandemic than by cruising around some magnificent seas, stopping by at great cities and having romantic dinner nights at nice restaurants?
A getaway in nature
On the other hand, there is always the option of stepping away from the hustle and bustle of large cities, and spending some time in a place that’s not only healthy, but also beautiful. Some of the destinations that plenty of people will look for are the ones that can cater for both peace of mind and amazing things to see or do. One such destination is New Zealand, one of the greenest countries on Earth right now. Not only will you be visiting the magnificent country that gave us the beautiful Shire from Lord of the Rings; this is also a destination that’s excellent for everyone who prefers relaxing to partying. If you’re up for some partying, you will be able to hit Auckland, while if you’re for something calmer, there’s plenty of amazing places that you can see and visit.
Dancing Around at Pride
Pride parades are also events that you want to have in mind for the post-COVID world. Such events have always been quite important, but it seems that they are now more important than ever. The virus has canceled more than 75 Pride parades all around the world, which is one of the reasons why we must support the ones that will see the light of day once the pandemic stops. Truth be told, the upcoming Prides will perhaps be the best Prides ever organized. Give the gays a couple of weeks of quarantine, then let them outside and see what kind of party they are able to throw!
A road trip
If you’re, as well, waiting for the day to wake up and say “long gone are the days when we were not allowed to go wherever we wanted?”, and if staying at one place gave you a lot to think about, then your first post-COVID travel experience should definitely be a nice road trip. You can practically choose which country you want to tour, and you can either take your own car (you have probably missed it so much), or rent one at your destination. Australia is an amazing country for this, though, as it offers the possibility of seeing the Great Ocean Road, which is an amazing thing to see and experience. On the other hand, if you do not want or cannot leave your country, you can also choose to go on a domestic road trip – there are amazing things to see in your vicinity as well.
Holiday for a single guy
If you’re single, or you’re traveling someplace with another single friend, then you should definitely organize a nice vacation for yourself or for you and your single friend, and hit one of the best European cities. Europe has been greatly affected by the virus, which means that now it’s time to pay it back and get it back on its feet by traveling there and seeing all the amazing things it offers. Any city you choose in Europe – you will not make a mistake. Apart from being able to see great landmarks, you will also have the chance to have a drink at great gay clubs and pubs, and join unforgettable gay parties. And if the gay scenery is not your forte, worry not, as Europe indeed has to offer so many different and magnificent things.