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It’s the holiday season and time to visit with family. How wonderful! … Or is it?
This can be a joyful, but trying time of year for anyone. While daydreams of holly and mistletoe may warm our hearts, anticipating Uncle Joe’s overindulgence in the eggnog and Aunt Thelma’s political ranting can leave us cold.
The unique stress of the holidays is only compounded when you feel you can’t be your genuine self or when there seems to be an air of disapproval swirling around you. Perhaps your partner is only reluctantly invited, treated coolly, or even excluded from family gatherings. Old hurts and irritants may resurface when families get together.
The holidays are also a time when religious beliefs and customs are more openly displayed and shared. Although attitudes are improving, the exclusionary or discriminatory practices of some religious organizations and faiths may be more noticeable during the holiday season. Old-fashioned value systems and beliefs that were imprinted into our minds as children may remind us of painful feelings and experiences.
What helps get us through these times? As with any time of year, it is so important to have a good support system. If you already have a good network of friends and confidants, reach out to them. Otherwise, create a safety net for yourself by connecting with the individuals and groups who will be there for you during difficult moments. This may include empathetic family members, close friends, or people who belong to your special interest groups.
Remember that there is only so much that is within your control and that others’ words and actions don’t define you. Although most of us long to be validated by our family and friends, letting go and accepting others as they are can lift a load from our shoulders and hearts. Step back and take a look at your own roles and behaviors at family gatherings to identify any problematic patterns. Receiving with gratitude what is given, regardless of how small – a smile, a gift, a meal, a gathering – can plant seeds that grow into more positive behaviors. Having compassion and understanding for others can be challenging, but helpful.
Plan ahead for the extra support you may need during this time of year. Support groups may be available that will address your specific concerns. In addition, crisis lines are open 24 hours a day. Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG), 12-step groups, and some churches can be good places to establish connections. Those who suffer from mental illness may find the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) to be a great referral source for help locally at 816-931-0030 or nationally at 800-950-NAMI (6264). You can also visit Kansas City Mental Health to access local therapists, support groups, crisis line numbers, workshops and wellness events.
It can be a relief to look outside yourself and lend a helping hand to others when you are feeling down. Gather supplies to deliver to local shelters, visit someone who is alone for the holidays, or help serve a seasonal meal for the homeless. Do you remember what it was like for you when you were a youth? Volunteer at Passages (KC Passages) to support LGBT youth.
Being assertive, setting boundaries, and staying true to your genuine self may not be appreciated by critical others, but it is the only truly sustainable way of being. Therapy, support groups, and friends can help you walk this journey toward living an authentic life when your family cannot accept you.
A good therapist can be a big help in managing holiday stress. If you do not have a therapist and feel that you need one, find one who will affirm you through the LGBT-Affirmative Therapists Guild (LGBT Therapists Guild). When all efforts have failed and your family of origin is unable to accept you the way you are, perhaps it’s time to celebrate the season with the friends who have become your “family of choice.”
As we prepare for the holiday season, establish or reach out to support resources, focus on what is within your control, and, if you need to, create your own unique holiday tradition with your “family of choice.” Happy holidays!
Martha Childers, EdS, LPC, and Tracy Ochester, PsyD, are sole practitioners and members of the LGBT-Affirmative Therapists Guild (LGBT Therapists Guild). Childers Counseling Service (Childers Counseling Service) is in the Country Club Plaza, and Ochester’s office -- MindfulKC (MindfulKC) -- is in Leawood."
After the last 2 years of dealing with the pandemic and packing on those COVID pounds here are some motivational quotes that can be the spark plugs to our wellness engines. You can have a full tank of gas, a clean carburetor, all the fluids topped off, and 300 horsepower of Detroit’s finest under the hood, but you’re going nowhere without that initial spark. In your quest for well-being, you need a catalyst to move you from idle to ideal. Here are some motivational jolts to inspire you to get your health and fitness vehicle moving.
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Thomas Paine said, “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.” You will have conflicts with making time for exercise each day. The treadmill will conflict with your enjoyment of the living-room couch and its fluffy pillows. Your body will engage in conflict with dumbbells and exercise balls as it seeks better health. Embrace these conflicts with excitement, and walk through the smoke and fire. Triumph is waiting on the other side.
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John F. Kennedy said, “Things do not happen. Things are made to happen.” The firefighter’s 55-pound weight loss did not just happen one day on a call. The computer programmer’s success in the Chicago Marathon did not just happen on a Sunday in October. The 4th grade teacher’s significant drop in cholesterol level did not just happen the day before spring break. These people made things happen…and it took time.
Ralph Marston of The Daily Motivator website, wrote, “What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.” Let today be the first day in 28 years without a cigarette. Stay an extra five minutes on the recumbent bike at the gym today. Start training today for the three-day breast cancer walk that is scheduled for the fall. Tomorrow is always waiting to see what you put in your piggy bank today. Invest wisely and watch the dividends grow.
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Jill McLemore once said, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you will land amongst the stars.” Set that goal to trim 75 pounds from your body. Only losing 42 pounds puts you way out there with the North Star. Aim to run 750 miles this year. Coming up 68 miles short will still put you past that former planet Pluto and on your way to the Orion constellation. Dropping eight waist sizes by Christmas instead of the projected 10 will let you glow with the luminescence of several brilliant wonders in the sky. By the way, I think there’s a full moon tonight!
Zig Ziglar stated, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” Tom Cruise was another aspiring pretty face in Hollywood about 30 years ago before starting to audition for parts in TV shows. Jared Fogle was a morbidly obese college student at Indiana University in the 1990s before beginning his Subway diet. Mark Zuckerberg was just another starry-eyed Ivy Leaguer until he began to implement a social network idea. They all have that common bond: They started something.
These motivational quotes should help get your wellness engine running and once your car is started there’s no telling where your health and fitness can go. Don't forget to end me a postcard when you get there!
This health and fitness article is brought to you by that guy who’s sneaky like a black hole and bright like a nebula. My name is Ron Blake and I can be found playing with my telescope at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Curative has announced that it is currently providing COVID-19 no-cost testing in your area at Metropolitan Community College.
Stay safe and get tested!
You can schedule COVID-19 Test at curative.com, and receive results in 24-48 hours.
Curative is the leading provider of COVID-19 testing in the United States. Curative’s mission is to end the COVID-19 pandemic by providing simple-to-use and painless testing at scale to produce reliable data for patients and health officials. We know that broad access to testing, robust contact tracing, and a vaccine are necessary to end the pandemic.
Is there any cost?
Regarding the tests, there is no out of pocket cost to the individual. Through the CARES act, all individuals with health insurance will be covered for a COVID-19 test. No one is ever charged a copay or deductible.
For uninsured individuals, they are covered under the HRSA fund under the CARES act. Curative will never send a bill to any individual getting a COVID-19 test through any of our testing sites.
How soon do I get the results?
Curative provides results within 24 hours of arrival at our lab (if not sooner). We pride ourselves on our ability to distribute tests rapidly, test patients easily, and send them their results quickly. Other highlights include:
· Non-invasive cheek swab (video) that is more accurate (~90%) than a nasopharyngeal test (~80%)
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· Lab capacity to process tens of thousands of additional tests
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Please visit curative.com to schedule your no-cost appointment TODAY at a site nearest to you. Together we can end this pandemic!
Curative believes that communal well-being is fundamental to individual health.
Curative is building infrastructure to make essential health services easier to access for everyone. Their infrastructure is designed to change as the world does—offering nearby access, affordable services, and science-based guidance.
Their efforts are supported by the optimism and ambition we share with communities across the US, and together we’re imagining new ways to help more people stay safe, healthy, and informed wherever they are.
“I wish I could work out, too, but I just don’t have the motivation!”
Give me a dollar for every time I’ve heard that and I’d be in Cabo San Lucas with an umbrella drink right now. Let’s identify a few of your motivations to get you on the right path. They are there … you just need to realize them so you can make it a great 2022.
How about getting healthy so you can be at that Christmas celebration in 30 years with all the family gathered around and exchanging presents? There will be nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters, children and maybe some grandchildren, all enjoying the sounds and sights of the season. That would be amazing!
How about being healthy so you can watch the first man land on Mars in 2030? You hear all the talk about preparing for a mission to Mars, but it will be a long time in coming. Just think if you were alive and well to see it happen!
How about being healthy so you can attend that 60-year class reunion? It might even be nice to walk into the function with a spring in your step and a glow of health about you! Many of your classmates will have walked past St. Peter and those pearly gates by that time, but you can give yourself a chance to stay here with some proactive measures.
How about being healthy so you can spend more time being relaxed and retired? It would be awesome to just not have to do anything you didn’t want to do! Get up every day and use that watch they gave you as a fashion accessory only. With a healthy body, you can spend ample time in the lap of leisure well into your 90s.
How about being healthy so you can walk your dog with your grandkids or great-nephews after that Thanksgiving meal many years down the road? It will be so cool to have that turkey dinner with all the relatives, but it’ll be even more fun to be able to move around without having to catch your breath between steps.
How about being healthy so you can continue to enjoy vibrant sunsets, thrilling football games, colorful leaves in the fall, summer barbecues, or birthday cards in the mail?
Everyone can find the motivation to work out! You just have to identify which motivation will get you to your starting line each day and which will help you get to your daily finish line.
There are plenty of great things to enjoy in life. Find your motivation and start earning your frequent flyer miles for your healthy life. Then soar into the future with excitement about what will be!
This article of motivation is brought to you by a guy who knows a good thing when he sees it. That guy of good vision is Ron Blake, and he can be spotted on that bright horizon at email@example.com.