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I?ve always known that we same-sex couples were happier than our opposite-sex counterparts.
Maybe it has something to do with us living up to that ?gay? moniker. Maybe it?s because we come together with such a strong bond that as couples we can weather the possibility of our family, friends, and neighbors rejecting us. Maybe it?s because as youngsters we all played nicely in the sandbox, and as adults we know how to share.
A slew of new studies have come out of late that don?t use my precise analytic reasoning, but they do show the brighter side of lesbian and gay male relationships.
Studies done by academics at UC Berkeley, University of Washington, Colorado State University, and Alliant International University in California were reviewed by Robert-Jay Green, Ph.D., executive director of the Rockway Institute, a national center for LGBT research and public policy based at Alliant.
He concludes that there are two key factors that promote healthier lesbian and gay relationships and that even show straights how to do it better.
1. We?re flexible about our gender roles. (I might be butch, but I certainly don?t mind being a femme in bed and hitting the sheets first.); and 2. We divide parenting and household tasks equally. (My partner Lynn cooks, I do the dishes. She does the laundry, I clean the cat boxes. We both tear our hair out trying to reason with our independent-minded 22-year-old, who has it in his mind that we should go back to the medieval barter system and forgo our present monetary system.)
?It all comes down to greater equality in the relationship,? said Green, who is also a nationally recognized researcher in both family issues and LGBT relationships. ?Research shows that lesbian and gay couples - by virtue of being composed of two partners of the same gender - have a head start in escaping the traditional gender-role divisions that make for power imbalances and dissatisfaction in many heterosexual relationships.?
Over at the University of Illinois, Urbana-Champaign, a study comparing same-sex couples with opposite-sex couples was also done. It found that we were similar to straight couples in many ways. All the couples, straight and gay, had positive views of their relationships, but those in more committed relationships (gay or straight) resolved conflict better than straights who were just dating. And, for just a little Sapphic icing on the cake, lesbian couples worked together especially well.
According to the study?s lead author, Glenn I. Roisman, Ph.D., same-sex relationships are not ?atypical, psychologically immature, or malevolent. Compared with married individuals, committed gay males and lesbians were not less satisfied with their relationships.?
OK, so we have a leg up because we gender-flex, don?t mind doing tasks that traditionally the other gender might do, and are generally happy in our relationships. We cherish our families just like straights. We want to protect each other. We value our partners.
Using these studies as context for the presidential race, we definitely see our lives being drawn down party lines.
The Democrats, while not quite ready to say ?yes? to same-sex marriage, do recognize our relationships, our families, and our children, and want to give us the same protections that they enjoy as married straights.
The Republicans? Well, even Rudy Giuliani (who may not even be in the race by the time you read this) is rolling back on his commitment to LGBT rights and domestic-partner protections.
Tell Mike Huckabee that our relationships are just like his marriage and you?ll get the hyperbole of a Southern Baptist minister wrapped in a presidential candidate?s rhetoric. They?re fighting words to Mike, who has built his political career demonizing us, trashing our relationships, denying our families, and signing legislation that refuses us our rights.
When asked in a recent Beliefnet interview about imposing a biblical interpretation on the U.S. Constitution, Huckabee said, ?Well, I don?t think that?s a radical view, to say we?re going to affirm marriage. I think the radical view is to say that we?re going to change the definition of marriage so that it can mean two men, two women, a man and three women, a man and a child, a man and an animal.?
There you have it - Huckabee thinks our lives and love are the same as polygamy, pedophilia, and bestiality.
Show Mitt Romney these studies, and he?ll flip-flop so many times trying to get a positive, negative, and middle-of-the-road take on them that no one will know what he?s talking about - which actually just may be his campaign strategy.
These studies show us in a positive light - perhaps, at times, more positive than our straight counterparts. Our candidates and culture can either learn from these findings and better themselves, or they can be threatened by them and try to clamp down on personal freedom even more.
In the end, it all comes down to how well we will all play in the sandbox that is our nation. Will we throw sand at each other for generations to come, or work together to build something new that shows just how loving, committed, and caring we all can be?
Libby Post is the founding chair of the Empire State Pride Agenda and a political commentator on public radio, on the Web, and in print media. She can be reached at LesbianNotions@qsyndicate.com.
After the last 2 years of dealing with the pandemic and packing on those COVID pounds here are some motivational quotes that can be the spark plugs to our wellness engines. You can have a full tank of gas, a clean carburetor, all the fluids topped off, and 300 horsepower of Detroit’s finest under the hood, but you’re going nowhere without that initial spark. In your quest for well-being, you need a catalyst to move you from idle to ideal. Here are some motivational jolts to inspire you to get your health and fitness vehicle moving.
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Thomas Paine said, “The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph.” You will have conflicts with making time for exercise each day. The treadmill will conflict with your enjoyment of the living-room couch and its fluffy pillows. Your body will engage in conflict with dumbbells and exercise balls as it seeks better health. Embrace these conflicts with excitement, and walk through the smoke and fire. Triumph is waiting on the other side.
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John F. Kennedy said, “Things do not happen. Things are made to happen.” The firefighter’s 55-pound weight loss did not just happen one day on a call. The computer programmer’s success in the Chicago Marathon did not just happen on a Sunday in October. The 4th grade teacher’s significant drop in cholesterol level did not just happen the day before spring break. These people made things happen…and it took time.
Ralph Marston of The Daily Motivator website, wrote, “What you do today can improve all your tomorrows.” Let today be the first day in 28 years without a cigarette. Stay an extra five minutes on the recumbent bike at the gym today. Start training today for the three-day breast cancer walk that is scheduled for the fall. Tomorrow is always waiting to see what you put in your piggy bank today. Invest wisely and watch the dividends grow.
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Jill McLemore once said, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you will land amongst the stars.” Set that goal to trim 75 pounds from your body. Only losing 42 pounds puts you way out there with the North Star. Aim to run 750 miles this year. Coming up 68 miles short will still put you past that former planet Pluto and on your way to the Orion constellation. Dropping eight waist sizes by Christmas instead of the projected 10 will let you glow with the luminescence of several brilliant wonders in the sky. By the way, I think there’s a full moon tonight!
Zig Ziglar stated, “You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.” Tom Cruise was another aspiring pretty face in Hollywood about 30 years ago before starting to audition for parts in TV shows. Jared Fogle was a morbidly obese college student at Indiana University in the 1990s before beginning his Subway diet. Mark Zuckerberg was just another starry-eyed Ivy Leaguer until he began to implement a social network idea. They all have that common bond: They started something.
These motivational quotes should help get your wellness engine running and once your car is started there’s no telling where your health and fitness can go. Don't forget to end me a postcard when you get there!
This health and fitness article is brought to you by that guy who’s sneaky like a black hole and bright like a nebula. My name is Ron Blake and I can be found playing with my telescope at email@example.com.
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“I wish I could work out, too, but I just don’t have the motivation!”
Give me a dollar for every time I’ve heard that and I’d be in Cabo San Lucas with an umbrella drink right now. Let’s identify a few of your motivations to get you on the right path. They are there … you just need to realize them so you can make it a great 2022.
How about getting healthy so you can be at that Christmas celebration in 30 years with all the family gathered around and exchanging presents? There will be nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters, children and maybe some grandchildren, all enjoying the sounds and sights of the season. That would be amazing!
How about being healthy so you can watch the first man land on Mars in 2030? You hear all the talk about preparing for a mission to Mars, but it will be a long time in coming. Just think if you were alive and well to see it happen!
How about being healthy so you can attend that 60-year class reunion? It might even be nice to walk into the function with a spring in your step and a glow of health about you! Many of your classmates will have walked past St. Peter and those pearly gates by that time, but you can give yourself a chance to stay here with some proactive measures.
How about being healthy so you can spend more time being relaxed and retired? It would be awesome to just not have to do anything you didn’t want to do! Get up every day and use that watch they gave you as a fashion accessory only. With a healthy body, you can spend ample time in the lap of leisure well into your 90s.
How about being healthy so you can walk your dog with your grandkids or great-nephews after that Thanksgiving meal many years down the road? It will be so cool to have that turkey dinner with all the relatives, but it’ll be even more fun to be able to move around without having to catch your breath between steps.
How about being healthy so you can continue to enjoy vibrant sunsets, thrilling football games, colorful leaves in the fall, summer barbecues, or birthday cards in the mail?
Everyone can find the motivation to work out! You just have to identify which motivation will get you to your starting line each day and which will help you get to your daily finish line.
There are plenty of great things to enjoy in life. Find your motivation and start earning your frequent flyer miles for your healthy life. Then soar into the future with excitement about what will be!
This article of motivation is brought to you by a guy who knows a good thing when he sees it. That guy of good vision is Ron Blake, and he can be spotted on that bright horizon at firstname.lastname@example.org.