Anyone who has driven on Main Street in Midtown Kansas City, Mo., sometime during the last few months has probably noticed construction on a new building. It is the Like Me Lighthouse, 3909 Main St., an entire building that is dedicated to the LGBT community, with sister buildings in New York and California. The three-day grand opening for the Lighthouse will be Friday, March 9, through Sunday, March 11.
The Lighthouse is a project of the Like Me Organization, which is the brainchild of country music artist Chely Wright. She came out of the closet as a lesbian in May 2010 and has since made her place in the world as not only a country singer but also as an advocate for LGBT rights. This is Wright’s second charitable group; the first was Reading, Writing, and Rhythm, which is dedicated to music education.
Wright stresses the importance of community in her process of coming out to the public.
“I don’t think I realized how great an experience coming out was going to be until I really found my community. It was a great liberation for me. By coming out, I was finally able to truly connect with people,” she says.
Realizing the importance of the gay community after she moved to New York in 2008 inspired the Like Me Organization, she adds. “It really galvanized for me the importance of community. Living in New York, I was quickly indebted into this culture with the LGBT Center in New York City. A lightbulb went off in my head, and I thought, ‘This is how communities come together. This is how LGBT people are able to really confide in one another and connect and have a social structure and an emotional connectivity.’”
Wright, a Kansan herself, sought to give something like that to Kansas City.
“There was never real space dedicated to the gay community. We all know people have tried to create virtual centers online, and those are important, too. Those are all a part of the things that can feed into the central hub of our community,” she said.
But with a place that is noticeable and available to the public like the Like Me Lighthouse, she said, “Even a truck driver or policeman can drive down Main Street, where we are located, see it and ask ‘What is that? Oh, that’s the LGBT center.’”
Wright understands well that visibility is important in the fight for LGBT equality. “It’s not just important to the LGBT community, but also for the non-LGBT community to see that there is a presence, that we are here. We are in broad daylight, and we are happy and proud and participatory in our community.”
The Lighthouse will be a place for allies, too, who are crucial in the battle for LGBT rights, she said. “It really empowers our allies. Our allies, in some ways, have to come out of the closet, too. We’ve had a lot of straight allies that want to support their LGBT friends, and they find themselves not able to use their voice.”
Now, with the creation of the Lighthouse, Wright says, “There’s a beautiful building right there on Main Street and we’re being talked about and written about. … It really emboldens their voice, and they can stand up and say, ‘I am an ally.’”
The Lighthouse will offer services for the gay community and its allies, including a computer lab, referrals to LGBT organizations and services, daily educational sessions, a suicide prevention line direct to the Trevor Project, health testing, weekly exercise classes, and an LGBT library and reading room.
Wright says, “We have a growing library in the Lighthouse, and I think so far, we are coming up on 2,000 books. And that’s going to be a big part of people’s lives. You can’t go to a lot of libraries and find LGBT materials in the Midwest. I think you’d be hard-pressed to go check out some literature like that in a lot of small-town libraries. So you get to drive an extra 20 minutes to go to the Like Me Lighthouse to get the book. I think it’s well worth the drive.”
Wright has been busy with advocacy work for almost two years. She released her first book, Like Me, about her struggle with coming to terms with her sexuality, as well as her seventh album, Lifted Off the Ground. Those who read the book will know that the songs from Lifted Off the Ground were written directly after Wright considered committing suicide. Actually, she didn’t merely consider it. She had the gun in her mouth with her finger on the trigger and was ready to end it before suddenly rethinking the decision and finally putting the gun away.
Now she says she is happy and making a difference.
Wright says, “If I could, I’d go back to the night I nearly took my life in early 2006 and I would tell myself, ‘You’re gonna be OK.’ Because I didn’t know that I was gonna be OK. I would say, ‘On Aug. 20, 2011, you’re gonna get married to a woman and you’re gonna be happy.’”
Wright’s personal turmoil about her identity is detailed in the book and is very much present on the album. The first track on the CD is called “Broken.” It starts the album off on a sad yet hopeful tone that could not be more appropriate.
The CD is unwavering in its emotional rawness. It is heartbreaking and uplifting at the same time. Not surprisingly, Wright’s songwriting is graceful and refined. The difference here is that she is sad and at times a little angry, making it the most real and raw album she has put out to date.
From that album, Wright says, it’s hard to pick a favorite song. “I don’t even think I could pick a favorite. The more I listen to the record, I like how “That Train” makes me want to sit on my bike and ride.”
Also, she says, “I really like the song “Like Me” because it inspired me to start the Like Me Organization. It inspired the Like Me Lighthouse.”
When Wright came out, she said, “I felt really powerful to claim my identity. I felt really powerful to say I’m a gay, Christian, country singer. I am a sister. I am a friend. I am an employer. I am song writer, I am an artist. I am this. This is who I am, and I’m proud of it.”
Even so, she said, “The fear is very real. It was a fear that I had because, by and large, my fan base is conservative Christian and there was a reason for that fear. Some of that fear came to pass; some of those disappointments did come to pass. I did have some fans who did not support me after I came out.”
“But I also have some fans that kind of scratched their heads and said, ‘Well gosh, we didn’t know that we knew or loved a gay person. I’ve got to think on this.’ That’s what I wanted to do. I wanted to challenge stereotypes. I wanted to use my public capital in a way that made people have to think.”
It’s important to Wright that she shares this part of her life with her fans. “Those who knew me and bought my records all of these 17 years, people who knew they loved me, who knew that they respected me -- I wanted to make sure that they were let in on this different part of my life and challenge them to go back and really think differently.” Quite honestly, she says, “I’ve been gay the whole time.”
Despite her advocacy work, music isn’t exactly on the back burner, Wright said. “Balancing advocacy work and still being an artist is a challenge, but I’ve been writing and I’ve been holding on to the guitar, squeezing it real hard, and you know something will come along.”
Song ideas still pour out of her, even in the middle of the night, “I woke up this morning at about 5:45 and my wife said. ‘Why are you awake? Are you OK? Do you have a headache?’ I said ‘No, I have a song idea.’ … They’re still coming to me.”
Wright’s personal musical taste has grown through the years. “I grew up on Loretta Lynn, Buck Owens, and Dolly Parton. But you know, I lived in Nashville for 22 years and being in such a great music town, you tend to learn about a lot of types of music.”
For example, Wright said, “I’m in love with that Adele record like everybody else. Who doesn’t own it? Everyone I know owns it.”
Though she likes pop music and other alternative styles, Wright won’t be making a pop record any time soon.
“I think my last record was kind of alternative country. I think whatever comes out of me, it is what it is. It’s hard to put labels on it. I think I’ll always be a country singer, though.”
Wright is more comfortable with what she knows she is good at. “If I tried to make a pop record, it would be a country singer trying to make a pop record. I think it’s better to stick with what I know. I love making country music, and I let the lines blur and be alternative and funky but just something under the umbrella of acoustic guitars and words that tell stories.”
At the grand opening, Wright concluded, “We’re going to have a great show in KC, and those tickets are going really fast, so people are going to want to get those. There are limited tickets, so people are going to have to get a jump on that.”
Grand Opening Events
For March 9, the first day of the Lighthouse’s grand opening, the screening of the film Wish Me Away is already sold out. The documentary was three years in the making and details Wright’s coming out.
Wright will perform with her band as part of the Saturday event. Other performers that night will be Alan Cumming from The Good Wife and comedian Hal Sparks from Queer As Folk.
In addition, Wright says, “We have a great Christian performer, Jennifer Knapp, and the local entertainer Kristie Stremel will be on the show as well.” From The Real L Word Stamie Karakasidis and Tracy Ryerson are also on the bill. Thomas Roberts from MSNBC’s Live will make a personal appearance as well. For tickets, go to likeme.org.
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When I started medical transition at 20 years old, it was very difficult to get the care I needed for hormone replacement therapy because there are very few providers trained in starting hormones for trans people, even though it’s very similar to the hormones that we prescribe to women in menopause or cisgender men with low testosterone.
I hope more providers get trained in LGBTQ+ healthcare, so they can support patients along their individual gender journey, and provide the info needed to make informed decisions about their body. I’ve personally seen my trans patients find hope and experience a better quality of life through hormone replacement therapy.
If you don’t have a primary care physician who specializes in LGBTQ+ care in your community, you may need to educate yourself (and your provider). But, before you seek such therapy, here are five things you should know!
- Monitor closely. At Spectrum Medical Care Center, we screen patients for certain risks before starting anyone on hormones. We frequently monitor patients in the first year to ensure there are no adverse reactions and lab results are within safe ranges. Follow-up care is also important to assess your comfort with the transition as well as the social impact and social support you’re experiencing.
- Some changes are permanent, some temporary. For transmasculine individuals going on testosterone, they’ll experience these permanent changes: deepened voice, clitoral enlargement (also known as bottom growth), more body, facial hair, and male pattern baldness. Reversible changes include cessation of menses, increased muscle mass and strength, body fat redistribution, and skin oiliness or acne. For those going on estrogen therapy, the most permanent change is breast growth. Feminizing hormone therapy can also cause atrophy (shrinkage) of the genitals and loss of erectile function that may not be reversible. Estrogen will thin body hair, soften the skin, can increase scalp hair, and decrease muscle mass and strength, all of which are reversible.
- You can’t pick and choose results. Unfortunately, you can’t pick and choose the physical changes you want, which may feel challenging. Some of my patients will say, ‘Okay, ‘I’ve seen the permanent changes I want, and I don’t want it to go any further,’ and so at that point, we stop therapy. Low-dose hormone therapy can slow down the rate of changes, allowing for a more gradual physical transition. We counsel patients in advance about the common changes, and it’s up to the individual as to when they’d like to scale back and determine whether some benefits are worth the potential risks.
- Be aware of risks. Like any medical treatment, there are potential risks involved. Some risks with testosterone therapy include increased red blood cell mass, acne, hypertension, sleep apnea, weight gain, and dyslipidemia (increases the chance of clogged arteries). Cardiovascular disease is likely increased with additional risk factors for testosterone and estrogen therapy. Transfeminine patients going on estrogen therapy may experience weight gain, thromboembolic disease (when a blood clot breaks off and blocks another blood vessel), and a high level of triglycerides in the blood.
Descanso Resort, Palm Springs' premier destination for gay men, just received Tripadvisor's highest honor, a Travelers' Choice "Best of the Best" award for 2023. Based on guests' reviews and ratings, fewer than 1% of Tripadvisor's 8 million listings around the world receive the coveted "Best of the Best" designation. Descanso ranked 12th in the top 25 small inns and hotels category in the United States. Quite an accomplishment!
Open less than two years, Descanso Resort offers gay men a relaxing and luxurious boutique hotel experience just minutes away from Palm Springs' buzziest restaurants, nightclubs, and shopping. Descanso has quickly established itself as a top destination for sophisticated gay travelers, earning hundreds of 5-star guest reviews and consistently ranking in Trapadvisor's top positions alongside brother properties Santiago Resort and Twin Palms Resort.
"Our entire team is honored to be named Best of the Best. To be the only gay men's resort recognized in the Top 1% is incredibly humbling," said Kent Taylor, General Manager at Descanso. "We appreciate Tripadvisor and we're grateful to all our guests who gave us such high marks and reviews to help us reach this achievement."
“Ranking among the Best of the Best demonstrates that you have provided exemplary experiences to those who maZer most: your guests,” said John Boris, Chief Growth Officer at Tripadvisor. “With changing expectations, continued labor shortages, and rising costs, this is no easy feat, and I am con6nually impressed with the hospitality industry’s resilience and ability to adapt.”
Santiago Resort was once again honored by Tripadvisor with a 2023 Travelers’ Choice award, placing it among the top 10% of travelers’ top reviewed des6na6ons. Twin Palms will become eligible for ranking in 2024.
Check out all the reviews, and discover more about Descanso Resort on Tripadvisor here. We have an excellent library of resort imagery available to accompany editorial and additional resources on our press page. Please contact Descanso Resort’s General Manager, Kent Taylor, at kent@descansoresort.com for further information.
About Descanso Resort
Inspired by Palm Springs’ history as a des6na6on for Hollywood stars to unwind in privacy, Descanso offers guests a casual yet modern take on the legendary style of that 6me. Created by the same hospitality team that revitalized Palm Springs’ much-loved San6ago Resort and recently launched the all-new Twin Palms Resort, the Descanso property opened in 2022 featuring 15 spacious guest rooms with custom-designed furniture, dreamy King-size beds, and luxe details. Ameni6es include continental breakfast, poolside lunch, welcome snack basket, and lots of special touches. For guests who need to stay connected, the entire property is equipped with blazing-fast Wi-Fi. Mul6-speed bikes are available for exploring the surrounding midcentury neighborhoods and public art installations. Like the Hollywood stars before them, guests at Descanso are encouraged to unwind, relax, and rest in style.
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