Women’s rugby is not a sport for the faint of heart.
As head coach Kathleen O’Neill said, “It’s a contact sport. There’s something to be said for letting your aggression out in a controlled way. You get to go out and tackle people!”
While black eyes and hard hits may be the common tropes associated with this sport, there is also an underestimated amount of “poetry in motion,” as O’Neill called it.
“The tackling is such a small percentage of rugby. Most of it is about problem solving and decision making on the field with a group of individuals,” said O’Neill. “Communication is a key part of rugby. So yes, there’s contact and tackling, but that’s not rugby, that’s just a part of it.”
Rugby is also just as much about what happens on the field, or the pitch (as ruggers call it), as what happens off of it.
According to O’Neill, “The social aspect of rugby is very big. Everything from getting together to eat food, drink beer, and have fun – those things all happen. At a typical game, we’ll finish up, go to a player’s house, and both teams will come together to eat and hang out.”
Hanging out with the opposing team after a game seems like a strange concept to most sports fans; isn’t there supposed to be heckling and animosity toward the folks with the opposite end zone? However, according to rugby etiquette, this is not the case. After games, the Stone Lions have what they call “The Social” where they hang out with their (hopefully recently beaten) opponents and treat them like old friends.
A few times a year, they host “Post Office” parties at Tribe and “King for a Night” drag shows at Play to fundraise for equipment, field rentals, referees, and trainers. The Stone Lions are also very supportive of the Grizzlies, the Nashville men’s rugby team, and all of their fundraising events. The rugby community is a rather small one, and they do their best to support each other.
The Stone Lions pride themselves on being a family. When a new player joins the team, she is assigned a “big,” who is a veteran team member that acts as something of a big sister. She will show her “little” the ropes and makes sure she feels comfortable.
Like a family, its members also lovingly give each other nicknames. Smashley, G, Flamingoes #1 and #2, Chainsaw, and Speedo are just of a few of the names thrown around in casual conversation. Some come from funny stories retold time and time again, and some are inside jokes that are probably best left to the imagination.
This team is also comprised of an incredibly diverse group of women.
According to O’Neill, “We have ages 18-40 on the team. We have girls that are straight, lesbians, and bisexual. We have numerous different ethnicities represented here. There are a lot of differences on the team and they’re celebrated. We have Star Wars buffs and girls who love romantic comedies or New Kids on the Block. We don’t hold anything against anybody!”
O’Neill also stresses that rugby is a game for women of all shapes and sizes. Whether fast or slow, big or small, there is a place on the rugby pitch for most all women.
The next home event is April 13 against the Atlanta Harlequins. The match will be held at 2100 Lebanon Pike in Nashville. The next weekend, April 20, their annual Prom Dress Match will take place at MTSU. The players go to thrift stores, pick out prom dresses, and then compete in them. All of their matches are free and open to the public.
If you’re considering learning to play rugby for the first time or have played before, the Stone Lions are always welcoming new players, regardless of experience level. Contact Danni Young, the Recruitment Chair, at NWRFCrecruitment@gmail.com. There will also be a team booth set up at Nashville Pride this summer for more information.
The Stone Lions have merchandise for sale and are a registered 501(C)(3) non-profit that welcomes donations. Both can be accessed on their website.