By Kimberly Blaker, May 2020 Issue.
As COVID-19 sweeps
the planet and country and shelter in place orders and precautions are taken to
protect our health, Americans are trying to adjust to a new normal. School and
work closures have families staying home except for essential needs. Kids are already
feeling stuck and miss their friends, activities, and routines. Many parents,
however, are learning how to work from home while juggling educating and caring
for their kids.
This new family dynamic, coupled with the
anxiety and stress from what’s happening in the world, may make it seem
impossible to get anything done. So follow these tips to develop a routine and
environment that works best for you and your family.
Create and
Follow Routines
Kids thrive on
consistent routines like those they have at school. So make a list of what your
family needs to get done throughout the day — work calls, completing tasks,
school Zoom meetings, schoolwork, meals, chores, and anything else. Be sure to
include some time for fun, as well!
Now, start filling in a schedule with the
activities that occur at set times and work in other responsibilities and
activities to create a family schedule. Include your kids in the planning, so
they feel involved and more willing to follow the routine. Then, post the
schedule where the whole family can see it. Also, be sure to adjust the design
of the schedule for the age of your kids. Younger children benefit from
straightforward visuals using bright colors, precise times, and pictures to
make the schedule clear.
Set Clear
Expectations
Kids and adults tend to do better when there are clear expectations set
beforehand. Agree on a set of rules and expectations for the day regarding your
work time and their school time. With older kids, sit down and make a written
contract. If you have younger kids, work together to create a poster with
visuals. To make it clear, talk about what different parts of your schedule,
especially your work time, look and sound like, and what everyone should and
shouldn’t be doing.
This will probably be a difficult
adjustment at first. It can help to set up a visual reminder to let your kids
know when you cannot be disturbed except for emergencies. Create a sign outside
your workspace that clearly states the beginning and ending time of your work
hours. This can help kids to be more patient. For younger kids, use a countdown
clock so they can anticipate the end time.
Designate a
Workspace
Having a particular
place in which you work can help set you up for success. If you’re not used to
working from home, recreating a space that feels like going to a workplace can
get you into a better routine and improve your focus. Try to create your
workplace away from the main areas of your home and, if possible, with a door
you can close. These tricks will also help remind your kids not to disturb you
when you’re in your workspace. Make your workspace as similar to the one at
your job as possible. You can also play music or wear noise-canceling
headphones to reduce distractions if another adult or older child is there to
care for the younger ones. Once you do arrive at your workspace, reset to
adjust your mind from home life to work life.
Ask for
Help
This isn’t the time to try to do everything yourself. If you have a
partner at home, take turns spending time with the kids so you can each have
uninterrupted time to focus on work or time to yourself to recharge. If you’re
feeling overwhelmed or are struggling to get something done for work, talk to
your boss or team about the situation before things become too difficult.
Everyone is affected in some way by the COVID-19 outbreak and therefore, will
likely understand. If you’re struggling to balance work and being home with the
kids, try talking to them at their level. Kids are more aware and understanding
than we often realize. So an open conversation with them may help.
Be Flexible
No one knows how
long this is going to last, and everything about sheltering in place is new. So
realize it will take time to adjust. Even if a strategy works one day, it may
not work the next. This is a difficult time for kids as well, who may not fully
understand what’s going on or be able to handle it emotionally. Unexpected
things will come up in your work, with your kids, or any other aspect of your
life. So, try to build in some wiggle room because you’ll likely need to make
changes as you go. For example, if the day is going really smoothly, perhaps
work a little longer to accomplish a bit more in case things don’t go smoothly
on another day.
Stay
Positive
Focus on the positive aspects of being home with your kids, even while trying to work and adapt to this new and unusual situation. Remember, the circumstance is only temporary. Things will eventually get done, and everyone is trying their best to manage right now with their own set of challenges and obstacles. Try to balance work and quality time with your family while you’re all stuck at home. The effort you make to do so can help your family bond and turn a tumultuous time into one filled with good memories.
