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Connie Sherman has helped create a unique quilt in memory of her brother Michael Arnold, who died 20 years ago of AIDS. He grew up in Kansas City and had moved to New York, where he worked in the restaurant and hospitality industries.
ï¿½It was a horrible time back in 1991. It was all so new and raw and scary,ï¿½ Sherman said.
She credits her brotherï¿½s friend in New York named David Treara who looked out for her brother when he was sick, helping with his medications and other support.
ï¿½He was at his death bed with my sister and brother, who were up in New York at the time. He is even going to try and make it in for the walk in honor of Michael. We still keep in touch with David Treara,ï¿½ she said.
Michael Arnold worked in Crown Center before moving to New York.
ï¿½He loved New York. I went up a couple of times and stayed with him, and we just had a blast.ï¿½
Sherman said her brother was openly gay.
ï¿½It was tough for him living in Kansas City at that time. And it was tough sharing that with our parents. My mother was accepting of it, my father not so much,ï¿½ she said.
Arnold was the fifth of the nine children in her family, she said. (One was a younger sister who died when she was 3 days old.) Their mother is still alive, but their father passed away three weeks before Arnoldï¿½s death.
ï¿½Michael came in for the funeral, and he got pneumonia and died three weeks later. He came in at Christmas and then was in for my fatherï¿½s funeral in January, and then at that time he was having to give himself IVs. I just remember the pain of seeing him do that,ï¿½ Sherman said. ï¿½Now, from what Iï¿½ve read and learned, people are surviving and leading fairly normal lives. Itï¿½s wonderful to see the money that has been raised being used toward that.ï¿½
Sherman said the quilt was a collaboration with her niece, Jennifer Walters. They used the special T-shirts created each year by AIDS Walk that list the names of people who have died that year.
ï¿½We took T-shirts from the last 10 years and made a 5 x 8 quilt of the T-shirts,ï¿½ she said.
ï¿½Iï¿½ve always loved the T-shirts. Itï¿½s a great reminder of what we do each year.ï¿½
Walters cut the shirts out into squares and stitched them together. Another woman, whom they hadnï¿½t known before, did the quilting.
ï¿½Itï¿½s kind of an interesting story,ï¿½ Sherman said. ï¿½I ran into a woman who had ï¿½QuiltLadyï¿½ as a vanity plate, and I asked her if she quilted and she said ï¿½yes.ï¿½ And I told her the story. She shared it with her quilting buddies, and her friend said, ï¿½Iï¿½ll do it for free.ï¿½ So this woman in Louisburg, Kan., Beth Dawson, she did the work for us to be able to give this quilt in honor of all who have died.ï¿½
This is not the only quilt her family has created. Her sister Theresa, who, she said, was very close to their brother, created a quilt that travels with the NAMES Project Foundationï¿½s national AIDS Memorial Quilt.
Sherman said she and her family will also be walking in AIDS Walk as part of ï¿½Team Arnold,ï¿½ and their goal is to raise $20,000 to honor the 20th anniversary of her brotherï¿½s death.
ï¿½There are only four of us on there so far, and I think weï¿½ve raised maybe $6,000. I have to light the fire under all the other family members to get going on that,ï¿½ she said.
She said they have also walked with a banner in her brotherï¿½s name in the procession that leads AIDS Walk.
ï¿½We always have a person from the family or a good friend of Michaelï¿½s from Kansas City hold the banner, and then we walk it down to Mill Creek Fountain,ï¿½ she said. ï¿½Iï¿½ll tell you something ï¿½ when all of us are standing there right before the walk gets started, to see the white banners blowing in the wind ï¿½ oh, my gosh. There is a celebration of life. With all the good causes that I give to, this is one that is so close to the heart. I put more time into this than any other.ï¿½
Sherman lives in the Waldo area of Kansas City with her husband, Bill Sherman. Her daughter Elizabeth Sherman, who lives in New York, has raised over $1,000 for this yearï¿½s walk, and her other daughter, Aly, who is now in Chile teaching English, walked a couple of years ago with a group from Baker University.
ï¿½After the walk,ï¿½ Sherman said, ï¿½we all go to the Peanut at 50th and Main, where Michael used to go, and we all have a toast. So people that donï¿½t do the walk and want to join us come, and itï¿½s a nice way to end the walk and celebrate Michael.ï¿½
This quilt panel will be displayed at the Mosaic event on April 1 and at the AIDS Walk on April 30. To contribute to the familyï¿½s goal of $20,000, visit the AIDS Walk FirstGiving page for Connie Sherman: www.firstgiving.com/aids-walk-kansas-city-2011-175bc2.
Nancy Salmons lives in Gravois Mills, Mo., but she has strong connections to Kansas City. She used to live here, and her son, Leo Walters, known to many in Kansas City for his LGBT community service, lives here now.
Salmons has created a quilt for the last five years for AIDS Walk.
ï¿½Theyï¿½re more of a wall quilt than an actual full-sized quilt. Theyï¿½re very diverse, the ones that Iï¿½ve made so far. Itï¿½s whatever idea that appeals to me at the time I decide to start putting it together,ï¿½ she said.
Salmons said the quilt she did the first year was modeled after the 3 x 6 panels in the NAMES Project national AIDS Quilt.
ï¿½But every year since then Iï¿½ve made fairly smaller ones, just because theyï¿½re easier to handle.ï¿½
ï¿½One of the reasons I got into quilting,ï¿½ she said, ï¿½is because itï¿½s a community. Itï¿½s a nationwide effort; itï¿½s a worldwide community. Every place Iï¿½ve ever gone where Iï¿½ve found another quilter, theyï¿½re friendly, theyï¿½re warm, theyï¿½re welcoming and anxious to share the craft.ï¿½
If anybody ï¿½ever did want to make a panel and didnï¿½t have the ability to do it, there are quilt guilds and quilt circles just about everywhere you go. If they wanted to contact me, I could help them or could put them in touch with someone in their area. Quilters are just wonderful, warm, giving people. I think any quilt guild would be glad to assist. I think any quilt shop would be glad to lend their expertise in helping somebody do it.ï¿½
ï¿½You donï¿½t have to have a lot of sewing skills to be able to do this,ï¿½ she said.
Although Salmons said she has been at all the previous AIDS Walks, she will be out of town this year and unable to attend.
I asked Salmons whether her son Leo had anything to do with her getting involved with AIDS Walk. She replied: ï¿½Well, from the standpoint that Leoï¿½s involved with it and heï¿½s my son, and you know, AIDS is a concern. Itï¿½s something I wanted to do to participate in something thatï¿½s important to him.ï¿½
Salmons said that sheï¿½s seen the stigma of HIV/AIDS and is aware of how some have perceived it to be a gay disease even though it can affect anyone.
ï¿½I made that point when I showed at the quilt guild I belong to. We have a show-and-tell every week. I took the AIDS quilt in and showed it to the gals. And they would say, ï¿½Oh, this is for your gay son and his gay friendsï¿½ and I said, ï¿½Well, no, there are people on here that were not gay. It does not affect just gays. Itï¿½s been targeted as that and thatï¿½s why itï¿½s not been funded as well as it should have.ï¿½ï¿½
She said that there was never a feeling of discomfort in her quilt guild about the subject matter, from what she could see.
ï¿½Iï¿½m not the only one there with a gay son. The other two gals also have gay children. One has a gay son and one has a lesbian daughter, and theyï¿½ve always been very open about it.ï¿½
ï¿½I do hope to get the guild involved in it next year,ï¿½ she said. ï¿½In July they accept new projects, and Iï¿½m putting up an AIDS quilt for a new project this year.ï¿½
In addition to her son, Salmons has a 31-year-old daughter, Jennifer Miller, who lives in Cedar Rapids, Iowa. I asked her whether her daughter had helped, and Salmons laughed. ï¿½No,ï¿½ she said. ï¿½She has no craft-ability orientation.ï¿½
She said her husband, Jim, is very supportive of the project and all of her sonï¿½s friends. They both know their sonï¿½s friends well.
ï¿½He was quite scared by them when we first got together,ï¿½ she said, ï¿½but heï¿½s come to appreciate them quite a bit.ï¿½
She said that she and her husband have shared many laughs with Leo, his partner Joseph Pinter and their friends. ï¿½I was to one of the wig parties and to Josephï¿½s Fourth of July parties,ï¿½ she said.
ï¿½I try to raise peopleï¿½s awareness wherever I go,ï¿½ she said, adding that she is ï¿½very proud that I can say my son is a wonderful person and he is gay and I have no problem with that.ï¿½
For her quilt, she said, ï¿½Every year I do a different pattern, and basically itï¿½s whatever speaks to me in regards to remembering people from the past. One year it had hobbies because I read the poem ï¿½In Flanders Fields.ï¿½ If youï¿½re familiar with that at all, itï¿½s about people that die on the battlefield but they want their comrades to remember them and by remembering their names they live on. And each year all of the names that are in the memorial project are put on the quilt in one form or another.ï¿½
This year, she said, ï¿½they were all machine-embroidered onto the quilt, and as Iï¿½m doing it, Iï¿½m saying the names and thinking about who they might have been. I didnï¿½t know any of them, but Iï¿½ve been to the memorial programs [annually held at Unity on the Plaza> and listened to their parents talk and Iï
After the last 2 years of dealing with the pandemic and packing on those COVID pounds here are some motivational quotes that can be the spark plugs to our wellness engines. You can have a full tank of gas, a clean carburetor, all the fluids topped off, and 300 horsepower of Detroit’s finest under the hood, but you’re going nowhere without that initial spark. In your quest for well-being, you need a catalyst to move you from idle to ideal. Here are some motivational jolts to inspire you to get your health and fitness vehicle moving.
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John F. Kennedy said, “Things do not happen. Things are made to happen.” The firefighter’s 55-pound weight loss did not just happen one day on a call. The computer programmer’s success in the Chicago Marathon did not just happen on a Sunday in October. The 4th grade teacher’s significant drop in cholesterol level did not just happen the day before spring break. These people made things happen…and it took time.
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These motivational quotes should help get your wellness engine running and once your car is started there’s no telling where your health and fitness can go. Don't forget to end me a postcard when you get there!
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“I wish I could work out, too, but I just don’t have the motivation!”
Give me a dollar for every time I’ve heard that and I’d be in Cabo San Lucas with an umbrella drink right now. Let’s identify a few of your motivations to get you on the right path. They are there … you just need to realize them so you can make it a great 2022.
How about getting healthy so you can be at that Christmas celebration in 30 years with all the family gathered around and exchanging presents? There will be nieces, nephews, brothers, sisters, children and maybe some grandchildren, all enjoying the sounds and sights of the season. That would be amazing!
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How about being healthy so you can walk your dog with your grandkids or great-nephews after that Thanksgiving meal many years down the road? It will be so cool to have that turkey dinner with all the relatives, but it’ll be even more fun to be able to move around without having to catch your breath between steps.
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Everyone can find the motivation to work out! You just have to identify which motivation will get you to your starting line each day and which will help you get to your daily finish line.
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